When it comes time to get the night off right, you will need to be playful and provide enough foreplay to get her juices flowing. For women, the proper foreplay is a must to ensure that there is an emotional and physical bond between you.
Ladies, unlike men, take a much longer time to reach their peak arousal.
While every sex partner will be different, there are a lot of foreplay tips that will make her go wild and ensure that when you have intercourse, she is more than ready to go.
Let me show you the eight best foreplay tips for her, with some awesome pictures!
Kiss Her With Passion
Making out has been around since the beginning of humankind. Passionate kissing brings about an emotional aspect that makes women feel closer to their partners.
With foreplay, there is never too much kissing that can be involved.
However, a person can make out so roughly that it ruins the mood. Therefore, soft, gentle, passionate kisses work the best to steam things up.
According to the women of Reddit, the perfect kiss is something like this:
“Place one hand on the small of her back and lightly press your groin against her (don’t be hard right away). Let her upper half meet you halfway and butt your foreheads together gently. Look her in the eyes then scan her entire face.”
“Eye contact is key, but not too much, don’t be weird. Use the thumb of your free hand for grazing the side of her face rubbing back toward her ear. Let the prominent portion of your upper cheekbone meet hers, and not quite like a cat, but not far off, rub your skin together. Skin to skin contact is a huge turn on.”
Also, some of the top places to focus on besides her lips are:
- Behind her ear
- Between her ear & neck
- The entire neck area
- Her lower back
- Right below her navel
- Across her panty line
- Her upper thighs and calves
- The backside of her knees
- Her wrists
Soft passionate kisses work the best. For areas where the skin is a little thicker, such as the panty line, a playful bite is always welcomed.
Give Her Sensual Massage
There is no doubt that massages are very intimate. In fact, most men and women will become aroused even if they are being massaged by an unattractive person.
Did you know that a woman receiving a massage from her lover can become so stimulated that she may even experience an orgasm?
Here are some tips we use while giving her the best and most sensual experience:
- Groom yourself and trim your nails before massaging
- Place a folded towel or a small pillow under her head
- Make sure that room temperature is high
- Lubricate your hands to make everything smooth
- Use aroma oils to heighten her senses and make it a more pleasurable experience
- Focus your efforts to work on her shoulders, neck, arms, upper and lower back, buttocks, thighs, calves, feet, belly and nether regions
- We had the most success when starting at her shoulders, and working our way up to her neck and head
- Then, it is a good idea to continue with both her arms and hands and only then work your way down her spine and the rest of her body
If you want to give her the best and most sensual massage ever, you have to play sexy, relaxing music in the background. Nice music will help her feel much more comfortable and will let her mind completely relax and “shut off”.
Tease Her While Undressing
Before any intercourse can occur, you will need to take off both yours and her clothes, so why not be playful with it? When undressing her, you can be extremely creative as this is an excellent way to add in a little foreplay.
I recommend using these simple tips:
- Bite her gently and use your teeth to remove delicate items
- Undress her from behind while kissing her neck
- Take it slow and caress her body after each piece of clothing you remove
- Rub sensitive areas while taking her clothes off
- Put your lips to use for extra stimulation
- Stroke areas that feel cool to warm these up
Never underestimate the power of playful foreplay. You can add almost anything to your process of undressing.
Play With Her Breasts & Nipples
The breasts are ripe with nerve endings that make touching, licking or playful biting very thrilling! Therefore, you need to know how to handle her breasts properly!
By not playing with her nipples, you will miss adding that extra spice to your foreplay that will make her go wild.
A breast is a breast – right? All too often, we notice smaller and larger ones, but we don’t realize that each size and type of nipple will require different stimulation strategies.
Here are all categories of tits you can encounter on your sex journeys:
- Large – Easily identified. As bigger are usually considered a C cup and higher.
- Small – Smaller are those that are easily cupped in hand.
- Droopy – Ones that are not perky, but hang down.
- Surgically enhanced – These are filled with silicon to make them larger.
- New mother – These are breasts of a new mommy (very sensitive).
Here are some tips and techniques worth following:
- Start by slowly cupping her breasts from behind her
- You can lick all around her breasts and the outside of the nipple
- Tease her while avoiding her nipples
- After some time suck on her nipples and breasts gently
When handling her breasts, you should always pay attention to how she reacts (as these are very sensitive). When doing everything right, you can stimulate her to the point she will be incredibly wet and horny.
Go For Dirty Talk
If done well, dirty talk may work on almost any girl. Before you begin, test the waters and find out what she likes.
The worst thing you can do is go in with the intentions of getting her aroused only to discover that nothing turns her off more than speaking dirty words to her. There are usually three different levels of dirty talk.
This usually includes a technique of creating an alter ego that is rough and sensual. Here are some examples you can use:
- “You’re so hot and sexy.”
- “You look so hot… I want you right now!” [whisper in a slow voice]
- “Oh, that feels so good!” [you can add some moan to it]
- “Your body is so hot.”
- “My inner animal comes out whenever I’m around you!”
- “Have you been bad today?”
- “I had a wet dream last night and you caused it. Wanna hear more?” [perfect for sexting]
- “Take it slowly baby.”
- “Whew! That’s a great workout.” [you can say it after your sex]
- “You make me so horny, I can’t stand it.” [ideal for texting]
- “What do you want to do to me?” [ideal for texting]
- “You look so sexy when you do that.”
At this level, a man usually talks dirty but still avoids anything that is too kinky or way over the line.
Examples you can use include:
- “I’m going to rock your world right now.”
- “Stand right there… I’m going to slowly undress you…”
- “That’s so good… you’re going to make me c*m.”
- “I want to taste you, baby.” [ideal for texting]
- “You have a very skilled tongue, darling.”
- “I’m gonna take control over you tonight baby… and you have to do *everything* I say!” [ideal for texting]
- “I’ve been very bad. I think you need to punish me.”
- “I love it when you say my name while we’re having sex… it turns me on so much.” [ideal for texting]
- “I can’t wait to do you!”
At this level, a man is going to the extremes and being downright filthy with the words that come out of his mouth.
Examples you can use:
- “Yeah… f*ck me baby like this.”
- “I’m going to f*ck you so hard today.”
- “I love it when you f*ck me fast/slow like that.”
- “That was f*cking incredible… f*ck me again!”
- “You make me c*m so f*cking hard baby.”
- “I want you to fuck me hard in front of the mirror baby.”
- “I wish I could control myself better around you, but when I see you, all I want to do is rip your clothes off and f*ck you.”
- “Nobody has ever fucked my brains out as you did.”
- “I want to hear you scream my name when you cum.”
- “F*ck me like you own me.”
- “F*ck it… you can degrade me.”
- “F*ck me like you mean it!”
- “I don’t want to be able to walk tomorrow so f*ck me harder.”
Just keep in mind that some women hate any form of dirty talk and it will ultimately ruin her mood. Therefore, you want to gauge the limits of what she likes.
If she doesn’t seem into it, just put an end to it and talk about it later.
Give Her Oral Sex
Perhaps you want to know that she is having a good time, and you want to leave nothing to a chance. When you want to impress and stimulate her at the same time, oral sex is essential.
If you want to eat her like a PRO, just follow these tips:
- You need to expose her clitoris by pulling its hood away with one of your fingers (use either your thumb or index finger)
- Once exposed, put your lips and mouth all over it
- Place your tongue under her clitoris and start flicking it slowly and gently
- Move your tongue up & down and increase your speed gradually
- Add side-to-side and circular motions into the mix
- As she gets closer to climax, suck on her clit a little bit and escalate your vacuum and suction power until she reaches a very intense orgasm
If you have any issues finding her clit, you can always ask her if you have hit it (or you can judge it by yourself based on her moans). Cunnilingus is the ultimate foreplay and will ensure that she is soaking wet when the time for sex comes.
A word of caution for anyone who wants to add oral sex into his foreplay.
If she is overly sensitive, intercourse may be painful for her after reaching orgasm from oral sex. When this is the case, make sure that she doesn’t climax before you get inside her.
While you may be a sexy man that she cannot resist, this does not mean that an easy blindfold fun won’t make things even better. When she loses one of her senses, others will increase significantly.
By putting a scarf over her eyes, you can make the experience more erotic and pleasurable.
If you do not have any scarf at your hand, you can use the following household items for an improvised blindfold:
- Nylon tights
- Pillow cases
- Cloth belts
- Sleep masks
Just make her blind and follow some of the many tips provided in this article. The trick is to use this moment of vulnerability and submissiveness to make her stimulated and ready to go.
While blindfolded, go for some of the kinky thoughts that you have been having but have been too shy to try. This may include sucking on toes, pulling hair or being a little more rough than normal.
Make Sure She Is Wet
Foreplay is all about making her excited and turned on. If she is not adequately aroused and lubricated, there is a high chance that the actual penetration with your fingers or your penis will be painful for her (and maybe for you).
Therefore, you need to make sure she is well wet before you end your foreplay and start with real sex. You can do this by your fingers or your tongue.
You can rub her clit and vulva through her panties. Do this until you can feel wetness through the fabric of her underwear.
If you can not make her wet with just your fingers, just use your mouth. By eating her pussy, you will leave at least some portion of your saliva there. This way your initial penetration will be painless.
Sometimes, what typically works to get her going will just not be effective. By playfully rubbing her pussy, you will know for sure that she is ready for sex.
Play Sexy Music in The Background
Bonus Tip #1
As you all know by now, men may prefer jumping right into the action, while most girls seem to prefer a bit of a mood-setting before having sex. They want to feel relaxed, safe, and desirable.
This is where the sexy music comes to play.
Good vibes can do wonders to her mood (if chosen carefully). Therefore, you need to select a song that best fits your girl’s tastes. If she’s into a country, for example, playing rap probably won’t do you any favors.
Luckily, I am sharing with you an excellent video below that is an excellent mixture of soft jazz that is ideal as background music that will put her in the right mood.
Light Up Scented Candles
Bonus Tip #2
Guys, let us tell you one thing. There is nothing worse than having sex in some stinky, nasty place. Throw out all that junk in your trash can, remove those awful socks lying around your living room, and take care of your hygiene.
Women, in general, are much more perceptive than us men.
They are very sensitive to smells, whether these are pleasant or not. Therefore, I am going to share with you a simple strategy that will help you a lot.
Just light up a scented candle.
Yes, it is that simple and it works wonders. Candles were used even in ancient Egypt to set the mood, to prepare the place for pleasurable lovemaking session and to make a girl fall in love.
Based on our online research and personal experience, the perfect scented candles you can use to boost her mood are vanilla, patchouli, musk, peppermint, ylang-ylang, and jasmine.
Place them in your bedroom, bathroom (next to your bathtub), living room, or anywhere else you think she might appreciate the perfect scent.
Try Sensual Slow Dance
Bonus Tip #3
Dancing to a slow, sensual song is a great way to get her juices flowing. You might want to play some old, erotic songs we have mentioned above.
A thing to keep in mind is that you should touch her slowly, caress her hair and keep your bodies really close.
You should dance in natural harmony and enjoy the tunes.
Trust us that this will definitely set the mood, and after one or two songs, you can throw her on the bed in a playful way, and your lovemaking session can start.
By the way, try to be good at dancing because according to this interesting article, girls relate your dancing to your lovemaking skill:
“It is commonly discussed among women that you can gauge how a man is in bed by his dance moves. If he’s shy, reserved and tends to stand lifeless on the sideline, then he may be more conservative and unadventurous in bed.”
“If he’s awkward, uncoordinated or seems insecure, it may also reflect poorly on his sexual expertise. You can sense his level of self-confidence and if he’s audacious and naturally outgoing, as the more genuinely secure and uninhibited he is, the chances are good he’ll be a mighty fine lover.”
“Sometimes, however, the shy quiet ones can be surprisingly amazing in bed – you just never know! : )”
So, as you can see, you always need to try your best as you never know when you are assessed by women you may like.
Real Girls Share Their Secrets
Bonus Tip #4
Female Reddit user TORREAU
She prefers soft dirty talk that leads to her being submissive:
“I like to be very submissive, so anything that makes it seem like he’s in control (“that’s my girl”, “you want it, don’t you? That’s good, because I’m going to make you take it either way”, “don’t move”).”
However, she likes a little bit of change from time to time:
“I like it really rough sometimes, and really sweet and passionate other times. But even during those softer times, a little rough movement is fantastic. Like if I’m moving a certain way and rather than telling me to stay still, he just roughly grabs me and holds me there while he continues.”
The best way to turn her on is to show you completely enjoy her body:
“Anything that makes it seem like he’s thoroughly enjoying my body for his own sake, not for mine. I’m one of those girls that doesn’t get much pleasure from things happening to me – almost all of my pleasure comes from watching and listening to him enjoying himself. So if it just seems like he’s doing things because he thinks I’ll like it, that can be a turnoff for me.”
Female Reddit user RUBY819
Go slow and tease – especially when you can see she really wants it:
“Take it really reeeeaaaalllly slow. If she has her hands all over you or she’s trying to undress you, grab her hands and hold them whilst you gently kiss her from her lips to her neck. Take a second to look into her eyes.”
“Hearing a guy “Mmm”, “Aaah” and “Ohhh” during sex or foreplay is so incredibly hot. Hearing him moan whilst receiving oral or something he likes is good reassurance that he’s enjoying himself and enjoying what I’m doing. So many guys stay quiet during the whole thing, and it’s kinda lame. Even porn is so much better when you hear the guy loving it just as much as the girl.”
Don’t be afraid to be a little dominant – just make sure your girl is into it first by:
“I don’t know, turning her around in the kitchen, pulling her close and kissing her hard or pushing her against a wall and pinning her hands down before kissing her. If she seemed to enjoy it, just do similar things in bed. It’s nice to have a little dominance in bed – like you can’t wait any longer, and you have to have me, and you are going to show me how. And just be reminded of how much stronger you are than me, so so sexy.”