Do you want to be sexually intimate with your partner but still want to wait until marriage to have sex and lose virginity? Then dry humping may be the perfect way to solve your sexual urges.

Also, there is almost a zero chance of getting pregnant.

Dry humping is when two people repeatedly rub against each other and move up and down or back and forth while they’re clothed or there is some sort of fabric dividing your genitals.

Essentially, you’re mimicking the act of sex, but never actually making skin-on-skin contact or penetration. Do you consider this sexual technique to be boring? Then you are doing it wrong.

Just read through our tips and positions below to improve your skills. Almost all girls love it and so will you.

Best Dry Humping Positions

If you want to experiment with dry humping, there are several positions for you to choose from. We have chosen these as the most common and comfortable positions that guarantee an easy orgasm.

#1. Missionary Variation

A simple variation of the good old classic – Missionary – is perfect for dry sex as it allows for direct stimulation of her clit.

All you have to do is to follow these simple steps to have a really good time:

  1. Let her lay comfortably on her back.
  2. Place a pillow under her butt and lower back to elevate her pelvis.
  3. Then you lay on top of her, your penis should be facing her clit.
  4. You can start with the grinding movements.
  5. You are in charge of speed, intensity, and rhythm of your grinding motion.
  6. You can also use one hand to play with her breasts.
  7. Also, kiss her passionately.

Don’t forget to place a pillow under her butt as this will make a big impact on whether you will hit her clit or not.

#2. Cowgirl Variation

Variations of cowgirl are one of the best and most comfortable positions for dry humping. This position puts a woman in charge of everything and a guy has an excellent opportunity to play with her breast or ass.

However, it is a girl who dictates how fast, how hard and in what rhythm to hump – making it easier for her to reach orgasm.

If you are a guy, just follow these directions for a comfortable cowgirl:

  1. You need to either sit down in a chair or lay down on your back.
  2. Don’t forget to direct your penis towards your bellybutton and bend your knees slightly.
  3. After this is done, a girl needs to straddle you while facing each other.
  4. Also, she needs to lean towards your face and her clit should be facing your penis.
  5. Once you are in this position, grinding can begin.
  6. As a guy, you can play with her breasts as well as her butt.

If you are a girl reading this article, just don’t forget to pay attention to whether your partner likes this position as well or whether you are grinding with too much pressure.

Also, you can experiment with a reversed cowgirl where you will have an excellent view of her butt.

#3. Spooning Variation

The spoon is one of the laziest and most comfortable positions for dry sex. If you still want to have some fun but don’t want to put much effort into it, then go for a spoon.

All you have to do is to follow these instructions:

  1. You both need to lay down on something comfortable such as couch or bed.
  2. She needs to lay on her side in front of you.
  3. You need to lay on the same side behind her.
  4. Place your penis on her butt.
  5. If you are in your underwear, place your erect penis (still in your underwear) between her legs so it will massage her pussy.
  6. Either you or she can play with her clit with a free hand and there is still a lot of places and opportunities for passionate kissing.

Just keep in mind that unless you both are in your underwear, you will be primarily stimulating her ass. If you are in your underwear, you can massage her pussy with your erect penis.

However, unless you have a really long penis, you will have a hard time hitting her clit.

#4. Riding His Thigh

Dry humping includes also activities where one partner’s genitals rub against some other body part of the other partner. This mostly refers to a situation where a girl “humps” a guys thigh.

To make the most of this situation, just follow these instructions:

  1. You need to lay down on a comfortable surface and spread your legs apart.
  2. She needs to get on top of you and straddle your thigh while her back will be facing you.
  3. Don’t forget to bend your knee a little bit to allow her a better contact and stimulation.
  4. She is now in the full control of the whole experience and you can watch her sexy butt.

Besides for a thigh, she can rub against your hand, face, chin, butt, tailbone, and other parts.

If you want to really spice dry humping up, how about adding some bondage to it? Both missionary and cowgirl positions are perfect for tying up the bottom partner and grinding him or her up to an orgasm.

Tips & Tricks to Achieve Orgasm

Some people solemnly swear that it’s impossible to orgasm from dry humping, but with the right techniques and positions, it is rather easy! Actually, it’s all about getting into the right mood before you can expect to orgasm.

You can do so easily by:

  • Stimulating her imagination – Try to stimulate her mind and build up her arousal by experimenting with a soft version of dirty talk. It doesn’t have to be graphic at all, just tell her how horny she makes you and how you can’t wait to feel her body.
  • Kiss her like a pro – The best way to get her into the right mood is to kiss her passionately. Tease her while kissing, bite her neck and be playful with your tongue. It’s always a good idea to find out what techniques drives her wild and stick with them.
  • Stimulate her erogenous zones – Did you know that women have at least 13 different erogenous zones? To make her orgasm while dry humping, you will need to stimulate at least some of these either with your hands or your mouth. We recommend focussing on areas behind her ears, on her neck, her lower back, and her butt.
  • Build up the tension – The best way to make her orgasm is to start slow and gradually build the sexual tension up to an incredible finish. As you begin, start grinding slowly against each other in a comfortable position. Then you need to gradually let the inner beast take over you and follow your instincts.
  • Reduce the amount of fabric – Dry humping means that you will avoid direct, skin-to-skin genital contact. That doesn’t mean you can’t take some clothes off. Just lose your shirts and your pants while keeping your underwear on. Trust me that you will have no problems achieving orgasm this way.
  • Apply friction on right places – For men, reaching orgasm isn’t all that complicated. It’s all about proper positioning. However, for women, it’s all about the stimulation of her clit. Use the friction of your clothing to stimulate her in all the right places such as her outer lips and clitoris. Also, vary your grinding techniques to keep things exciting and spicy.
  • Add sex toys into play – To spice things up, you can also strap a vibrator onto your thigh so she can have more fun while riding it. Also, you can wear a vibrating cock ring while she grinds your penis.

By applying at least some of these tips, you will spice things up a little bit and make the dry humping an unforgettable experience for both of you.

What Do Girls Really Think About Grinding?

While browsing the internet, we have discovered a lot of girls (mostly on Reddit) expressing their opinion on dry humping. Based on their reactions, we can safely say that the vast majority of girls simply love a little bit of grinding with clothes on.

Just take a look at their responses gathered from various 3rd party websites.

“Love, love, love dry humping. It’s a throwback to those early, intense days when you hadn’t had sex with your current partner yet. You both wanted to, but were holding back, relishing in toeing the line. It’s the best workup ever. I get off from it, but it still makes me want more and more.”

“Best is without jeans. Either do just underwear or pajama-type attire. I like to be on top and do the riding. That way I have more control over making sure my clit gets properly stimulated.”

Female Reddit user Sapphires13

“I enjoy it, probably way more than I should. Especially when I’m focused on something, and my back is turned, my boyfriend will just come up behind me, put his hands on my hips and his chin on my shoulder/crook of my neck, and starts slowly grinding the hell out of my ass. Biggest turn on to me.”

Female Reddit user WestWays818

“I had this conversation with my boyfriend yesterday, I absolutely love it almost more than anything else. It’s so exciting, I’m usually on top when we ‘dry hump’ or grind.”

“For the record, as far as I know, it feels amazing for most girls, feeling cock rub against your clit through the fabric can still get you off and just knowing what it is rubbing into you makes it 100 times better it gets you so hot and horny. As a girl, yes it’s fabulous.”

Female Reddit user WildSheNerd

“The best is to be on top of your boyfriend with both of your shirts off. It’s really comfortable to have my skin against him and my breast pressed against his chest. Besides, it allows the guy to touch you everywhere more freely and it also allows him to let himself go completely when he’s about to climax (because he’s already lying down). I usually grind faster the more aroused my boyfriend gets and I press my junk against his more and more until he comes. Usually, after a while of doing that, his breathing starts racing and I know he’ll get off very soon.”

Anonymous user at GirlsAskGuys.com

Benefits of Dry Humping

Although some (especially older) people do think that dry humping is a boring activity that is good only for teens and sexually inexperienced couples, they could not be further from the truth.

Not only is dry sex a lot of fun, but it also has other great benefits:

  • Avoid STDs & STIs
  • Improve your foreplay
  • Prevents unwanted pregnancy

As you can see, there are many reasons why dry humping should be a part of your sex life.

Other Things You May Try

Are you experimenting with dry humping to “have some fun” with your partner and avoid pregnancy at the same time? Then there are more kinky activities you can try as well.

These include:

Between dry humping and the fun things listed above, you and your partner can enjoy each other sexually without losing the virginity in the real sense.

The best part? These activities won’t lead to an unplanned pregnancy.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

We have been getting a lot of questions about dry humping. That is why we have decided to create this FAQ section where you will find answers to (hopefully all) your worries.

Can you get pregnant from dry humping?

FAQ #1

Can I get pregnant from dry humping? This is the most frequently asked question among teens. Don’t worry, you can’t get pregnant from dry humping as long as his semen is not coming into contact with your vagina.

The word “dry” means that you have your clothes on and no bodily fluids will get in contact with each other. Because semen doesn’t travel through dry clothes, you can enjoy a lot of grinding without any stress of getting pregnant.

What clothes are the best for dry humping?

FAQ #2

Do you wonder which clothes are perfect for a steamy dry humping session? Well, the general rule is to wear clothes from fabric that is easily slipping and sliding against each other.

We prefer to choose a material that is soft, loose, and comfortable for your skin, such as satin, silk, or cotton.

So, the best clothes you can wear include:

  • Leggings
  • Pajama pants
  • Sweatpants
  • Underwear
  • Cotton shorts
  • Joggers
  • Nylons

If you are dry humping with all your clothes on, just try to avoid jeans and harsh pants at all costs. The fabric of jeans tends to chafe your skin. Trust us you don’t want to be completely sore and swelled up after a dry humping session.

Can I dry hump even if I am circumcised?

FAQ #3

Yes, there is no reason why you shouldn’t do the dry humping if you are circumcised.  Whether or not you have foreskin will not affect your experience.

However, some guys report that circumcision will result in thicker skin on your glans leading to less sexual stimulation. This way, you may have a harder time reaching orgasm when compared to uncircumcised guys.

On the bright side, as a circumcised man, you should be able to last longer during sex. 😉

Can I achieve orgasm during dry humping?

FAQ #4

If you are a girl, you are luckier as women tend to orgasm much quicker while dry humping. However, both of you can reach a pretty intense orgasm.

The time it will take highly depends on the level of your:

  • Arousal
  • Skills
  • Knowledge of your body

Do you have troubles to reach orgasm? Then you may try to vary the intensity of your movements, your humping techniques, angles as well as material of your clothing.

Read more tips here:

If our article has not satisfied your needs for info on dry humping, then we have listed a couple of webpages that we think may be useful to you:

  • Jeans Were A Bad Choice – This article provides an excellent and funny insight into what thoughts go through a girl´s mind during dry humping with a guy for the first time.
  • Dry Humping and the Virgin’s Guide to Orgasms – Sarah from Love Panky has written a similar article to ours but instead of ours, focuses more on a female audience.
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