Almost everybody’s thought about “knocking at the back door” once in their lifetime. However, very few people end up pulling the trigger simply because there are a lot of myths, fears, and misconceptions as far as anal sex is concerned!
If you are looking for a fantastic way to add some spice to your love life, then this type of intercourse is right up your alley. Of course, if you have a partner who is willing to try some new things!
However, there are some do´s and dont´s with regards to anal sex you need to follow! Luckily, this layman’s guide to “backdoor” sex will give you everything you need to know!
Tip #1 – NEVER Pull a “Sneak Attack”!
This advice is worth repeating. Never try to enter her anus without her knowledge as it will be painful for her and will ruin her mood for a very long time!
You have to communicate your interest in anal sex with your partner and make sure that she (or he) is 100% cool with it! Although this is going to take a bit of work up front, the payoff is well worth it.
Pay attention: Before we dive into the “nuts and bolts” of anal sex, remember that if she’s just not interested in it – or doesn’t want to have it right now – let it drop. Some people just aren’t into it at all, and there is nothing you can do about it!
Tip #2 – Showers Are an Absolute Must for Anal Sex
For obvious reasons, you need to make everything as clean and neat as humanly possible – and a good, long hot shower is going to be appreciated by your partner. Who knows, maybe it will turn into a steamy shower sex?
You might even use an anal douche product to make sure that all is spotless, especially “under the hood,” but most times this isn’t 100% necessary!
Pay attention: A lot of people freak out that their feces will be everywhere – but that’s just not the way that this works. Cleaning things up will help both of you be just a bit more comfortable, and comfort is critical when you’re talking about anal sex!
Tip #3 – Spend Twice as Much Time with Warm Up
Though some hot fantasies and scenarios come along with the “backdoor sex,” both of you should be properly warmed up ahead of time.
Not only are you going to want to use a ton of lube (I will deal with this in the tip #5), but you need to ramp up the foreplay to get both of you in the mood!
Start off with your typical foreplay or throw in a few new wrinkles from this guide and at some point begin massaging her butt. First use only your fingers but then use a mini vibrator (see tip #6)!
Keep in mind: Don’t be afraid of getting a little bit rougher than you would have before, actually warming it up plays a crucial role in creating that emotional, passionate, energetic connection that will heat things up!
Tip #4 – Make Sure to Talk About It First
Even if you are not typically a dirty talker, you’re going to want to try to have a clear and open line of communication. Both of you need to be 100% comfortable with the way that things are progressing.
Remember, a lot of people are terrified of anal sex before they’ve had one!
Often, this is caused by many myths and misconceptions. These often include fears of how much it’s going to hurt, how messy it’s going to be, or how it might mean that you are secretly “gay” deep down inside.
Pay attention: Literally none of those things are real if you do everything correctly! You want to make sure that you both are on the same page as you get things started!
Tip #5 – Use Extra Bottle of Silicone Lube If Needed!
I know you probably think that I’m joking a little when I’m saying that you would be best off using an industrial sized bottle of synthetic lubricant, but I’m not.
We’re talking about an incredibly tight spot here, one that doesn’t provide “lubrication” on its own!
The last thing that you want to do is derail this amazingly impressive ride by creating more friction and you should.
Pay attention: You need to eliminate all potential pain by lubing it all up – and then adding some more as you go in! However, water-based and oil-based lubricants just can’t keep up with the friction. Therefore, try silicone-based lube.
Tip #6 – Always Start with The Smallest Fingers & Toys
The most crucial thing you can take from this post with regards to anal sex is the following saying:
Slow and steady is going to help you to win this race!
You need to warm her anus up with your fingers or anal sex toys, actually making sure that she is all relaxed and 100% comfortable with everything that’s going on.
Keep in mind: Trust me that the last thing that you want to do is dive right in and “tear it up”! Regardless of what you’ve seen in the porn movies, I assure you that you won’t ever get another chance if you just start hammering away.
Just make sure that both of you have fun with it! After all, we’re talking about sex here. Keep open lines of communication, use gallons and gallons of lube, and make things slow and steady and you’ll be just fine.