BDSM Mastery: Make Her Crave More With These Master & Slave Principles

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REMEMBER: This is the ULTIMATE Guide to BDSM Mastery! Discover 7 Tips & Tricks to Make Your BDSM Experience The Best! These Tips Helped Over 50,000 Readers!

If you are thinking about all those wild and “forbidden” pleasures, fantasies, and sexual activities, you need to try the BDSM! However, diving into this kinky world with no experience whatsoever can be a daunting and even scary process.

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Luckily, with the inside information and tips provided below you should have no trouble getting started and enjoying this new exciting style of sex from the beginning.

The Meaning of BDSM Acronym

Though almost all sexual activities involve a dominant and a submissive party, the practices covered by this acronym really take pleasure to entirely new levels.

This acronym covers:

  • Bondage and discipline
  • Dominance and submission
  • Sadism
  • Masochism

In general, all these four aspects are based on a main – “Master vs. Slave” – principle. On the one hand, you have the dominant party (either male or a female) that calls all of the shots. On the other hand, you have the submissive party that obeys commands.

There are no real rules for choosing dominant and submissive roles except that this decision must be made consensually.

Keep in mind: When you enter into a BDSM relationship, you agree to either take complete control of another person sexually or give yourself up freely to your new “master.”

While some couples like to start with light levels of BDSM and then gradually spice things up, others dive right into the pool and keep things running hot the whole time.

The Real BDSM: Inside a Dungeon with a Dominatrix

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7 Tips & Tricks to Make BDSM Session One to Remeber

#1 – Communicate a Lot

If you want to have the perfect BDSM session no matter your experience level, then you need to talk a lot with each other. Only through open communication you can learn about your partner´s needs, desires and turn-on´s.

  • Talk about what turns each of you on
  • You need to make your submissive partner feel safe enough
  • Speak of each other’s insecurities to know each other better
  • Be up-front about yourself and your kinky side
  • Learn to read your partner and his or her body language

Pay attention: Good, continual communication yields intimacy, understanding, alignment, and agreement. Trust me that it will make your relationship much better.

#2 – Always Have a Safe Word

This is the second most important point on this list. Before you engage in any activities that are related to dominant and submissive behavior, you need to set up a safe word – one that anyone can say at any time to stop the action.

In the ideal case, you will set up two words, one for slowing down a bit your action and the other that will stop your play completely.

Here are my tips when choosing the right word:

  • Do not pick red, yellow, or green as these three colors have specific meaning among professional dominants
  • Pick something that is easy to remember and easy to say
  • It must be a word that is not likely to come up during normal course of play

Examples of good safe-words:

– “SAFE WORD”, “PIE”, “LUCKY”, “PLAYGROUND”, “HEARTBEAT”, “LOLLIPOP”, “PINEAPPLE”, “BANANA”, “APPLE”, “OKLAHOMA”, etc.

Keep in mind: If you incorporate toys and equipment that will hinder your partner´s ability to speak (such as mouth gag), you need to set up a non-verbal cue – such as a tap or a specific number of hand squeezes.

#3 – Start Slow to Build Trust Gradually

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Many sex experts state that building a trust in the dominant and submissive relationship will take some time. I recommend taking things slowly at first to measure how comfortable your partner is with your kinky desires:

  • You can start with whispering “Do you have anything to tie me up with?”
  • Or you can hold his hands down above his head as you make love to him from on top.
  • Or you can take control when he is allowed to have an orgasm.

Then you can gradually push the boundary. As a submissive, you’ll need to give yourself up entirely to the commands of your Master, something that can seem a little bit difficult on the surface until you start to get into the swing of things.

Keep in mind: The trust will not come out of the blue. Start slow and build from there. It will take time, careful consideration and energy, but it is worth every “drop of sweat” in the end.

#4 – Talk Dirty to Your Partner

While we have pointed out the importance of open communication between you and your partner for BDSM sessions, there is another element you need to consider – the dirty talk.

Because each and every aspect of BDSM is dealing with establishing the dominance between two partners, the dirty talk is perfect.

Here are some of my tips for beginners:

  • You need to find a vocabulary you are comfortable to use
  • You do not need to be graphic at all
  • Talk about sex openly in and outside of your bedroom
  • You need to practice a lot
  • Experiment with different tones (whispers in ear, playing disgusted, act angry, etc.)
  • Be creative and change it up frequently as you do not want to be using just two words
  • Expect to make mistakes and be prepared to laugh at yourself

Pay attention: For more tips, tricks and dirty word phrases see my advanced guide here – The Advanced Guide to Talking Dirty.

#5 – Go for a Simple Bondage

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The bondage comes hand in hand with the blindfolding and is a perfect way for a dominant partner to show to his or her submissive who has the ownership of his or her body, time, and space. You can use it for an erotic stimulation, punishment, discipline training, or even humiliation.

Just keep in mind that there is no need to go for very complicated knots and items. Just stick with the basics for a safe bondage.

Best items you can use for a blindfold:

– Scarf; necktie; professional blindfolds; bondage tape

Best things you can use for bondage:

– Handcuffs; scarf; necktie; chain; bondage tape; wrist and ankle restraints; belt; armbinders; spreader bars; solid braid nylon rope (7/16″ or 3/8″ in diameter); thick cotton or silk rope (this one is expensive)

All these are just tips for beginners and newbies. I will add an article that will deal with the advanced bondage tips in the future so stay tuned.

Extra advice: You can tease your submissive partner with a good sex toy but do not allow him or her to reach orgasm. See more here – The 10 Best Male Sex Toys That Are Worth Your Money and 10 Most Popular Female Sex Toys.

#6 – Try Spanking & Discipline with Household Items or Professional Toys

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With spanking and disciplining you need to make an erotic atmosphere first for a submissive partner to enjoy herself or himself. Only then you can start with causing pain for his or her pleasure.

It is best to start slow and start with a dirty talk to make your submissive partner feel naughty. There are a lot of things you can choose from for a proper spank or a discipline session.

Best items for spanking:

– Spatulas; floggers; whips; wooden spoons; paddles; belts; hairbrushes; plastic rods and rulers (very stingy and can leave marks)

Best items for discipline:

– Candles; mouth gags; collars; nipple clamps; nipple lasso; chastity cock cage

If you want to learn more about the proper equipment of a BDSM professional, then check out this article – 4 Vital Tools for Every Dominatrix.

Keep in mind: These are just beginners tips. If you want to learn more about advanced ways to spank someone properly, you need to read this article – Spanking 101: Tips & Tricks You Need to Implement.

#7 – Always Prepare a Plan to Follow

In any BDSM activities, a “Master” needs to always maintain control over and lead his or her submissive partner. A “Slave” relies on you to “guide” him or her and does not expect you to be a frazzled, unorganized mess.

Therefore, always prepare your plan before you engage in any dominant and submissive activities. Here are some tips that will help you create one:

  • Always create a beginning, a middle and an end (just like a good story)
  • You are the one who is calling the shots
  • Prepare your playthings and be organized
  • Read a lot of erotic literature to get inspiration
  • Add a lot of realism to your scenario

Because the dominant member is going to be able to establish all of the BDSM rules, it is impossible to provide you with all the different tips and tricks you may consider using. Just be creative.

Basic Ideas & Inspiration for Role-Playing Scenarios

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As you have read above, one of the most important parts of the best BDSM session is a well-prepared plan. Before you start dealing with details, you need to pick a great scenario to elaborate on.

Here are my most favorite ones:

  • Boarding school student that has been caught doing something naughty (e.g. masturbating)
  • New pony that needs to be examined for health problems (in a degrading way) and trained well
  • Interrogation for a piece of information only submissive knows (like top card in the deck)
  • Night security that has caught submissive partner trespassing on the private property
  • A pirate plundering a village and capturing a hostage/slave

Pay attention: As you can see, there are many scenarios for you to choose from and the only limits are your fantasy and creativity.

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  • nick

    Nice post dudes. I really do appreciate all the things you’ve guys taught me over the past few months. Anyways my girlfriend and I are both into BDSM and I love dominating her and I love when she dominates me. It feels good for a woman to take full control or things.

    • Hey Nick It is pleasure to read your words. It feels great to know that you like what I do. I hope you are subscribed to us and that you will find future articles attractive as well.

  • Joelene

    I have not yet tried out BDSM or any form of dominate sex acts, but I want to get my boyfriend to consider it. He usually takes control when we have sex, but I want to try and take over, take control. I will have a talk with him soon about trying it out. Maybe he’ll get into it. I’ll show him this article to to make it easier for him.

    • I bet that after reading this article he will know what he can expect from this kind of activity and there is very high chance that when you will try it first time, he will just love it!

  • Michael J.

    Hey there guys. I have asked my girlfriend if she’d like to try this out. I would take the lead one night and she’d do it the next night and we’d switch off on who’s the dominator and the slave. I have always wanted to perform BDSM ever since I saw a porno about it. So it’s been a dream of mine to give it a try.

    • Hey Michael, people should always fulfill their dreams (more importantly those with regards to sex). It would be great if you could share with us your experience.

  • jessieS

    I love being dominate with men, and I always try to take full on control. I also love being tied up while having sex, bondage to be exact. It makes sex that much more enjoyable I believe.

    • Yup, bondage is attractive to a surprisingly very high number of women around he globe.

  • Ames

    Tight leather on a woman is something that always gets me going big time. My girlfriend will often wear it as that makes me quiver, lol. But seriously, this is one of the biggest turn ons, especially when you incorporate it into BDSM. 😉

    • I can only agree with you Ames. It really works wonders!

  • Grant Mah

    I’ve been frequenting this site for some time now and I will say that you guys have taught me a lot since joining. If it wasn’t for you fellas, I would be doing the simple/boring sex, instead I’ve started to try new things with my wife. We are now considering trying out bdsm now, so that’s something. 😀

    • That is really good to know Grant. Congratulations for opening your sexual horizons!

  • Maggie

    I love being the master with my men. I have done BDSM for a long time now and I love taking my men to the brink, showing them that I am the master. I know a lot of guys are hesitant to try this all out, but when I get men to do it, they tend to end up falling in love with it.

    • I know what are you talking about. I was the same.

  • jimmie

    So BDSM entails that someone be in full control, while the other plays the part of a slave? Sounds really interesting. I guess you could say I usually take the lead when it comes to sexual encounters, but I have not officially tried anything like BDSM. I would love to tie a woman up and maybe even be tied up myself.

    • Well bondage is really sexy. Try to blindfold your girl as well as tie her hands softly so she will be without any control but could fee her hands if she wanted to. I bet she will like it.

  • smitty

    That last video is hot! Forget the safe word! She can do anything she wants to me!

  • wayne

    Bdsm is definitely not a first date type of thing. I know, I found out the hard way on the receiving end of a pair of stilettos.

    • That is true Wayne. This should be done in a trusting relationship between two partners with a known safe word.

  • marcia

    This sounds like something I have to try. It sounds really hot giving yourself to someone else like that.

    • I totally agree with you. A little bondage or a slapping from time to time can really spice things up in bedroom.

  • mattias

    Does bdsm involve pain or am I thinking of something else. I don’t mind a little pain but too much doesn’t sound like a turn on to me.

    • Yes Mattias you are right. It involves many things and one of these is pain as well. But remember that this term really covers a wide variety of activities and some of these may be appealing to you.