Do you want to be the perfect dominatrix? Then you need to have some toys and equipment at hand to be able to realize all your client’s (or your partner’s) fantasies.

Each dominatrix should project authority and power and to do that, you will need the right kinds of clothes, tools, toys, and accessories. In this article, I will try to guide you through an extensive list of must-have items and pieces of clothing each dominatrix should have in her “arsenal”.

The best part?

I will give you suggestions on where to get the best deals online and also what are some of the free household alternatives that can unburden your budget.

Footwear On High Heels

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fetish boots

One of the most important pieces of clothing that can help you project a dominant presence as a dominatrix is a proper footwear. Most Dominatrices tend to favor high-heel shoes so they appear to be much taller and stronger.

Not only that, thanks to high heels, your footsteps will produce a distinct sound adding to the air of your authority and power.

My advice is to choose shoes that are made out of leather. Not only that, welcomed features of your shoes are:

  • Fetishy vibe
  • Dark color
  • High heels
  • Platform
  • Pointy toe
  • Adjustable buckle straps

If you need to have a look at various designs of shoes that are perfect for a dominatrix, then feel free to visit ShoeCup.com or Exotichighheels.com. The price range there is between $35.00 – $160.00 and they also offer a wide variety of designs.

Another great website that offers a wide variety of fetish shoes is ExtremeRestraints.com. Look for those higher priced items as they are truly luxurious and seductive as well. You can’t go wrong with their Black Patent Knee-High Ballet Heels ($150).

Although your footwear should always project an air of high presence, you should also focus on the setting and theme of the fantasy you are trying to recreate.

Sexy Corset From Leather Or Latex

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dominatrix corsets

A corset is perhaps one of the most important pieces of clothing for a dominatrix. It’s something that will give you that curvy, tight look in the midsection.

Not only that, it will help you to project that dominant presence.

My advice is to go for a real corset if you want to feel comfortable in it. It should have all steel boning in it and not acrylic as the steel (when heated by your body temperature) adapts to your curves once and forever while acrylic bones tend to get out of shape or even break.

If you need some inspiration on where to get your corset, then don’t forget to check out Amazon corset bestsellers section or Rebelsmarket.com. You can find corsets made of various materials with different extra features. The price range there is from $10.00 up to $100.00.

For luxury corsets that are made out of high-quality materials and have steel bones in them, you can visit Vollers-corsets.com. Just expect a higher price range between $160.00 – $500.00.

If you want that perfect look, just try to wear your corset over dark lingerie. Trust me that this combination will give your subordinate quite a sight to see (if he or she gains your permission, anyway 😉 ).

If you don’t want to wear a corset, then try getting a latex or leather lace-up dress or put on a leather vest or a jacket that has that punk vibe.

Smaller Pieces Of Clothing & Lingerie

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dominatrix lingerie

A dominatrix would never have that sexy, sharp look and towering presence without some smaller pieces of clothing and lingerie.

You can significantly improve the whole experience by wearing these extra items:

  1. Chokers – Choose products that are either made out of lace or leather. I have found high-quality chokers at Dysfunctionaldoll.com ($20.00 – $55.00) or a little bit cheaper ones at Dollskill.com ($8.00 – $50.00).
  2. Sexy lingerie – A sexy lingerie is a must-have. You can get some cheap models from Amazon bestsellers, or you can invest your money into something more expensive at Fredericks.com.
  3. Shoulder-length / elbow-length opera gloves – My advice is to go for lace, leather or latex gloves depending on the rest of your attire. You can find these all around the internet, or you can check out Amazon.com for some extra savings.
  4. Skirts – Almost any black mini skirt will do. It is a suitable option for mistresses on a tighter budget. Have a look at Rosewholesale.com for cheaper leather options.
  5. Thigh-length stockings – These, especially when paired with proper shoes can have a significant impact on your overall sexy look. There is a wide selection of stockings on Yandy.com that will cost you from $3.00 – $80.00 depending on the material used.

The price range for these smaller items can vary depending on the style, manufacturing precision, and the materials used.

Obviously, you need to think about the theme and setting of the fantasy you are trying to recreate and the type of attire you already have. Just make sure the materials you are going to get can be combined together.

If you overdo the variety of materials used you could end up looking like a scarecrow.

Tools & Items For Bondage

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bondage play

Each and every dominatrix should have at least a couple of items for bondage. There are many sex toys that are perfect for binding your “partner” into a submissive position.

As always, I recommend choosing items that were designed for this purpose:

  • Mouth gag – Want to show your client who is the boss here? Make him or her unable to speak thanks to a mouth gag. You can choose one from these Amazon bestsellers. The price range is between $8.00 – $80.00 depending on materials used and features provided.
  • Pigtail hood – Although this sex toy may look a little bit creepy, it is an excellent way to limit senses of your subordinate. Just check out Stockroom.com – they offer a wide variety of hoods ($18.00 – $350.00).
  • Chastity devices – How about restraining his penis? Chastity devices are a perfect way to limit his freedom and cause pleasurable pain at the same time. Here are some good models to choose from.
  • Wrist & ankle restraints – These restraints are extremely useful. You can choose which leg or arm you decide to restrain. Do you prefer full control? Use all four restraints on your client and start with teasing. Here are some useful models.
  • Handcuffs – Another restraining tool is a pair of good, old handcuffs. There are many types out there so here is a good shopping guide to choose yours.
  • Bondage tapes – This is another variation to handcuffs. A special self-adhesive tape is perfect for bondage play. This product is widely available and will cost you around $10.00.
  • Blindfolds – Blindfolding your subordinate is a perfect way to increase his or her other senses. Although you could use any ordinary scarf, I recommend one of these blindfolds as these are much more comfortable to wear.

If you don’t want to purchase expensive sex toys you can try some household items. These include scarves, ropes or cords, and neckties.

Just keep in mind that you can harm your submissive more easily when using these items.

Tools & Items For Causing Pleasureable Pain

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pain causing tools

Another group of items each dominatrix should have at her hand are those, that can cause a pleasurable pain. This is also known as impact play. My advice is to use professional tools or toys as these are less likely to cause any injury to your submissive.

For example, you should get your hands on:

  1. Whips – There are dozens of different types of whips suitable for BDSM play. There are too many features that I am unable to cover in a short paragraph so check out this comprehensive guide to choosing the right whip.
  2. Floggers – Floggers provide a wide variety of sensations based on materials and fabrics used. The general rule is: “The more firm a material is, the more intense the sensation it can provide. The lighter a flogger is, the more stingy and painful the flogger can feel.” Here is a detailed guide on choosing the right flogger.
  3. Paddles – There are many types of paddles and the level of pain each one causes depends on its size, shape, engravings, and presence of holes. Here is a great selection of paddles (with “ouch factor”) that are perfect for spanking.
  4. Spiked pinwheels – Spiked pinwheels are excellent for causing that pleasure and pain at the same time. There are several excellent options for you at Stockroom.com ($3.00 – $90.00).
  5. Riding crops – Because riding crops have more surface area at the tip, they will hurt less than a whip upon impact. You can browse the Amazon bestsellers selection ($9.00 – $45.00) or Stockroom.com ($20.00 – $55.00) for best deals.
  6. Nipple clamps – This sex toy is quite common yet very effective. Here are highest rated nipple clamps on Amazon.
  7. Electrode penis pads – Because electricity provides a special sensation, you should have at least one pair of electrode penis pads in your “arsenal”. Just invest in a high-quality TENS unit that is much safer. It costs around $200.00.

Again, if you don’t want to purchase expensive whips, paddles, and pinchers, you can try some household items. These include spatulas, wooden spoons, dog leash, belts, rulers, and canes.

Just keep in mind that you can harm your submissive more easily when using these items.

Items For Sensory Stimulation

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feather teaser

The last group of things each dominatrix should have in her repertoire represents sex toys and items perfect for sensory stimulation. There is nothing better than a submissive client who is restrained, blindfolded and teased.

The best way to engage his or her senses is to use the following things:

  1. Candles – There are many candles with a low melting point that are suitable for BDSM play and it is easy to get lost when choosing the right one. That is why I am linking for you a great guide to a safe and fun wax play. I personally like the massage candle made by Lelo the most.
  2. Feather teasers – Feather teasers (such as this one also made by LELO) are perfect for altering between painful and soft teasing sensations. Sure, you can use a single feather but more robust ticklers provide for more sensations. These cost between $9.00 – $30.00 and have various designs.
  3. Ice cubes – Stimulation by a cold temperature is a fun way to spice up your dominatrix play. The best part? It costs you almost nothing. However, ice has its dangers and that is why you should always follow this guide during your ice-play.

This is the least expensive group of items that provide a lot of fun. That is why you should have these always at hand and use them often.