I bet you know that feeling of fear you experience in your stomach when you go talking to a new girl. Even a guy who seemingly picks up women whenever he wants will tell you that the first interaction is the most difficult!
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Unfortunately, it takes quite some time to get over your worries! After all, there is always a chance you will be rejected.
Luckily for you, I am going to share with you 8 golden tips that I have learned about talking to girls. Since the first interaction is vital to your success, a discussion is a doorway to future dates, chats, and even sex!
Tip #8 – Get Rid of Your Shyness & Insecurities
Are you shy and insecure? If so, you have to start to make an immediate change! There is a reason that men try to pick up women at bars after they have had a few drinks; they are less shy.
What you want to do is leave all your worries on the table. Shine with confidence and turn your insecurities into strong traits! Chances are, she will not notice your insecurities on your first date if you do not mention them.
Instead, be confident, stay on the subject and make her your center of attention!
Tip #7 – Talk About Anything But Stay on The Point
There are a thousand things you can talk about, but you want to stay on point instead of jumping from one topic to the next. Ideally, you will find something that the both of you seem to enjoy and converse naturally.
In the flow of the conversation, you will eventually ease your way into new topics and find that you two have opened up with each other.
Pay attention: The only exception to this rule is when the subject seems to change her demeanor. Perhaps you brought up family, and she has now become upset or distant. In this case, switch the subject and move on!
Tip #6 – Be Yourself & Maintain Eye Contact
When the two of you sit down and talk, always make sure that you maintain eye contact the whole time. There is nothing worse than a man talking to a woman while staring down the pretty waitress that walks by.
You need to make her the center of your attention and making eye contact is the first step to success!
Please note: If you have wandering eyes or keep checking your watch for the time, you have utterly destroyed your chances.
Tip #5 – Listen to What She Says & Do Not Interrupt Her
Is she boring you to death, and you want to change the subject to football at the next chance you get?
While it may be difficult, you need to listen to what she is saying and keep the conversation going. If you interrupt her or miss a vital point of what she says, you show that you do not care about her!
Pay attention: The reality is that she wants you to be interested in her, and if you are not listening, she will notice it quickly.
Tip #4 – Ask About Her Life
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Everyone loves when others ask about them. Therefore, you need to ask about her life and show that you are interested in her.
This will include her:
- Job and life dreams
- Favorite movies and music
- Place of living
- Favorite hobbies
Keep in mind: By asking about her, you will find that the conversation is far more natural, and she will be more receptive to you as a result.
Tip #3 – Make Her Laugh
Laughing is great. In fact, everyone loves to smile. This is a relaxing, emotional response, and your internal chemistry will change when you begin laughing.
Studies have also shown that this is an effective form of stress relief.
When the two of you are talking, always try to make her laugh. You do not want to start with a corny joke, but making light of something funny will do the trick!
Keep in mind: You want to come off as naturally funny and not like a comedian that has a list of jokes that he tries with every girl.
Tip #2 – Flirt with Her Softly
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When talking to someone for the first time, you do not want to bend down on one knee and propose, but you do want to implement soft flirting.
This is simple and easy!
All you have to do is to comment on her:
- Shoes, purse or outfit
One of the best methods is to do it in the middle of a conversation. If she mentions that she is a yoga fanatic and spends 4 days a week in the gym, you can say that her body looks fantastic and well-toned.
Pay attention: You can also touch her hand or hair. You don’t want to put on too much pressure, but you do want to get the point across that you are interested in her!
Tip #1 – End Your Conversation Early & Leave Her Wanting More!
While women like to talk, you need to know when to end the conversation. After all, what fun would it be if you told her everything there is to know about you during your first date?
Just end the talking early while always remembering to take her number or schedule your next date!
This shows that you have your life to live and that you are not ultra-clingy. Furthermore, ending the conversation at just the right time will leave her thinking about you all night long!
If you got to the end of this article, congratulations and I thank you for your attention. As a reward, I have a lot of other useful stuff you should check out as well!