6 Strategies for Overcoming Fear of Rejection


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Fear of rejection is the one thing that holds men back from approaching women. No one likes this experience, but it’s a part of life.

If you let your fear get in the way of taking action, then you’ll miss out on great opportunities to meet chicks and make connections.

Learning how to overcome the hurdles of rejection can go a long way in helping you build up your self-confidence and letting go off your worries.

Use these 6 strategies below to fight off your negative mindset and start approaching the ladies of your dreams.

Strategy #1 – Understand What Rejection Really Means & The Worst Case Scenario You Face

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When faced with refusal, most people automatically assume that this means they aren’t good enough. Simply put, they take the rejection too personally. If you get refused, it does not mean that you aren’t good enough.

It just means that you aren’t a proper fit for that person!

You can’t attract everyone, and you certainly won’t be the first person ever to be rejected. It’s also important to consider the worst case scenario. What’s the most horrible thing that could happen if you’re rejected?

Pay attention: It won’t be the end of the world. Although your ego may be bruised, you will live to see another day. If you allow your fear of refusal to get in the way of making your move, you may miss out on the best case scenario – making a connection!

Strategy #2 – It May Not Be Your Fault

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Rejection is not always your fault. Maybe she’s in a relationship already or isn’t ready to start dating. Maybe she doesn’t feel as if she’s good enough for you.

Keep in mind: People have their reasons for rejecting others, and those reasons are not always about you. There’s a good chance that no matter what you could have or would have done, the refusal would have happened anyway.

Strategy #3 – Let Go of Your Limiting Thoughts & Worries

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Fear of refusal is often rooted in our thoughts and beliefs about ourselves. You need to avoid this mindset at all costs!

“I can’t approach her. She’s out of my league!”

“I’ll never meet the right woman because I’m not good enough!”

All these are destructive and limiting beliefs that will prevent you from finding success. It’s essential to let go of any negative thoughts and ideas that you may have.

Keep in mind: You can go to any woman you want, and you can attract her. All it takes is a little confidence, practice and a positive attitude!

Strategy #4 – Be Optimistic & Think Positively

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Adopting a positive attitude is one of the best ways to overcome your thoughts of rejection. Putting a perspective spin on this whole idea is crucial.

So what if she rejects you?

At least you had the confidence to approach her and start talking to her. Far too often, we jump straight to negative outcomes and let fear take over.

The bottom line: The question you should be asking is “What if she doesn’t”? You’ll never know if you don’t try. Be positive and such things will start happening.

Strategy #5 – Be Assertive & Proactive

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Fear makes us behave in submissive ways, which is a quick ticket to “rejection-ville” in the dating world. Be assertive when you approach women and accept that you may be rejected.

Prepare yourself for a potential negative outcome beforehand, and it will be much easier to cope with should the worst-case scenario happen. This doesn’t mean that you should take a negative approach.

Keep in mind: Just be yourself and be assertive! The only way to get over your anxiousness is to experience this for multiple times.

Strategy #6 – Rejection Is Opportunity to Move Forward & Grow

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I know that this can be difficult to swallow, but no matter how confident a person is a refusal can make them question themselves! If left unchecked, these emotions can send you down the wrong, destructive path.

Instead of this automatic reaction to rejection, try to understand it as an opportunity for your personal growth!

If a woman rejects you, you can analyze the situation and pinpoint ways to make your moves and yourself better. Multiple refusals not only give you a chance to practice, but also help you find out what works and what doesn’t work.

Keep in mind: In time, your confidence will build up naturally. You should be looking forward to failures and mistakes as these give you a new experience and a chance to grow.

Overcoming your fear of refusal is not something that will happen overnight. By using these strategies, you can let go of limiting thoughts and beliefs that are preventing you from making your move!

Hey folks! My pen name is James Buzinko (a.k.a. Stallion) and I want to make this THE GREATEST place for every guy to master the arts of love, dating and attraction! I am young, free and my motto is "Carpe Diem".
  • Keith

    If you know what you are doing you can drastically decrease the chances of being rejected by a girl. But you do need to invest time and some money in your appearance, pick-up lines and take the time to study your “target”. When you know what she likes and dislikes you can make an interesting offer she will find hard to refuse.

    • http://thestallionstyle.com/ James Buzinko

      Thanks Keith. This is complex approach that works wonders. What is more, if you open TheStallionStyle dating category you will find some of the best articles on these issues.

  • Jesse

    I didn’t realize that just because she said no to me doesn’t mean that it’s somehow my fault. I just figured it was something wrong with me because I got a couple of no’s from girls. Reading this post makes me think that I can actually get a date because I dress nice, I don’t look bad and know a couple of good pick-up lines. Thanks!

    • http://thestallionstyle.com/ James Buzinko

      You are welcome Jesse. I hope this article and following tips will help you significantly.

  • Kevin

    “I’m not good enough!” is just not true. You are good enough but you may not be the right person for her or she might be involved in another relationship or who knows what that doesn’t have anything to do with you. You just need to learn to accept the fact that some girls will say no.

    • http://thestallionstyle.com/ James Buzinko

      Sure, this is really something you need to realize if you get rejected.

  • Trevor

    “What if she says yes?” is something I have written on a piece of paper that hangs above my PC so I can see it every day. It reminds myself that I have nothing to fear and inevitably someone will say “Yes” or even “I would love to!”. Can’t wait for that day!

    • http://thestallionstyle.com/ James Buzinko

      That is amazing technique dude! I know that this will bring you success. It is all about positive attitude!

  • Jake

    Man, I was so afraid of asking a girl out a couple of years back! I was such an idiot! All those dates I could’ve had! I am now 25 and I just realized that it was stupid of me to be scared. So what if she says “No.”? Like you said, it’s not the end of the world. But what if she says “Yes”!?

    • http://thestallionstyle.com/ James Buzinko

      If you compare benefits of yes and negatives of no answers, then there is obvious that you can only win by asking a girl out!

  • Rocky

    I was behaving in submissive ways when I was a teenager and no wonder girls were just not into me. I’ve learned from my mistakes and I can now date 3-4 chicks per week if I want to! I have a lot of confidence in myself and in my ability to score a date with a chick I hardly know.

    • http://thestallionstyle.com/ James Buzinko

      Rocky that sounds great! I am glad you managed to discover your mistakes you made and changed yourself for better.

  • Mike

    I try to tell myself that every rejection is just another step towards a yes. I try to learn from every no I get and see what I can improve towards the way I speak, dress and act. I always have a lot to learn from every rejection. Sometimes, I even ask the girl that rejected me why she said “no” and some actually tell me! There is a lot to learn here.

    • http://thestallionstyle.com/ James Buzinko

      Mike that is really healthy attitude you have taken towards this issue. Few rejections can move you so much further in your life… It is amazing!

  • Daffy Duck’s dad

    Thinking she’s out of your league is just stupid! Just go for it and see if she says yes or no. It’s great if you can learn a few things about her before you actually try to ask her out because this helps you learn more about her and about women in general. But, other than that, just be a man and ask her out!

    • http://thestallionstyle.com/ James Buzinko

      That is true. Always try to get some info about her and what he likes. That will tell you a lot about her character features.

  • Andrew

    In my 20’s and before that I always thought that if she said no it meant that I was to blame, that something was just not right about me. It took years before I got enough courage to start asking girls out. Because of one bad experience when I was a kid, I lost so many potential dates because of my fear of rejection!

    • http://thestallionstyle.com/ James Buzinko

      Sure, but imagine you would never get that courage! That would be a total disaster. I just follow a rule, better to change and fix things later than never 🙂 !

  • Justin

    Not taking rejection personal is the way to move forward. The more you get rejected the easier it becomes to hear a “No.”. I was so afraid of being rejected I wouldn’t even go up to a girl and ask her out because of this. Then something changed inside of me and I started asking a lot of girl out. Most said no but a few said yes. And it was all worth it.

    • http://thestallionstyle.com/ James Buzinko

      That is amazing to read and hear Justin. I am glad you had some success already!