Top 12 Mistakes Men Make in Bed and How to Avoid Them


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I know that almost each man thinks he is the best stallion during sex, but we all should admit that we may be doing some things wrong. Anyway, there is no better way to improve your lovemaking skills than to learn from your mistakes and those of others.

Whether you’re someone in need of a better approach, or just a married man looking to add a bit more spice back into your love life, here are 12 worst and most common mistakes that men make in bed — and what you can do to avoid them.

I bet that you will find at least 4 you are doing as well!

Mistake #12 – Not Focusing on Foreplay

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In each and every sex poll of women you will notice the same thing – they complain about the time we men give to proper foreplay. Although having a quickie is fun from time to time, a majority of women express opposite opinions.

Therefore, you should always dedicate at least 10 – 15 minutes for proper foreplay! This should include everything that your lady loves, including:

  1. Sensual massage to relax both her body and her mind.
  2. Try sexting to prepare her mind for sex by sending her dirty messages.
  3. Talk dirty to her to arouse her biggest sexual organ, her brain!

Keep in mind: It should be something special done only for her to set the mood correctly.

Mistake #11 – Poor & Awkward Undressing Skill

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All guys should know that setting the mood is important for almost every woman who you are going to have sex with! However, few of us realize that you can kill it incredibly fast with poor undressing skill.

Do not lose hope, I am going to give you some advice to apply even tonight to fix this issue:

  1. The #1 mistake we guys make while undressing ourselves is that we leave our socks on!
  2. There is nothing worse you can do to kill her mood than to be lousy at taking her bra off or breaking a clip on it!
  3. Be cautious when you are handling her panties and take them off in a playful and teasing way!

Please note: You can even try to get rid of her panties with your teeth, but you will need the help of your hands until you take them below her ass.

Mistake #10 – Lack of Grooming & Poor Hygiene

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Getting lax with your daily hygiene routine is a surefire turn-off and an easy way to make your woman feel sick, both in and out of bed. Although women love modern beards, they hate them while kissing or when you are giving them oral.

Luckily, avoiding this mistake is simple with these few tips:

  1. Take daily showers.
  2. Use strong and manly perfume.
  3. Shave your facial hair and armpits.
  4. Get rid of pubic hair.

Pay attention: If she is giving you a head I bet that having “bush” down there is not comfortable for her. Therefore, you should always pay attention to your daily hygiene, sweating, odor and body hair!

Mistake #9 – Being Silent & Having Emotionless Robot Face

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Being silent while having sex (unless your partner has asked for it) is a quick way to make her feel she is not good enough or that you do not like what she is doing to you. A lot of women complain about it so do not ignore this issue!

They often feel like they are having sex with an emotionless robot, and I bet you would not like that either. Luckily, there are few steps you need to follow if you want to fix it:

  1. Try to moan if she is doing something you like.
  2. Express your emotions and feelings through your face.
  3. Compliment her in a slow, soft voice if she is doing something you love.

Keep in mind: However, you need to realize that too much of moaning can come across as distracting und unwanted in some moments!

Mistake #8 – Not Taking The Lead During Sex

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In most cases, women want to have a leading and stronger partner during sex – the more so if she seems to be dominant in your relationship. Being too passive and lacking spontaneity are very often the main reasons why lovemaking in relationships starts to fade away.

You can easily fix this mistake by following these tips:

  1. Trust your sex skills and use these tips to maintain a high level of self-esteem.
  2. Try to acquire qualities of an alpha male.
  3. Lead her verbally by telling her what you are going to do to her a moment you are going to do it.
  4. Tell her what you would love from her and lead her hands where you want them to be.

Keep in mind: Although from time to time, each woman will want to take a lead and ride you to orgasm, this should not become the norm. It is a man’s role to take a dominant role during sex!

Mistake #7 – Keeping Your Sexual Fantasies to Yourself

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Many women complain that their sex life is falling into a routine and that their partner is not experiencing with new stuff. So why not to share your fantasies with her especially if you are in a long-term relationship?

I doubt she will be against it! Want to know the best ways to share your “kinky thoughts”? Here are some tips you can follow:

  1. Just have an honest and open conversation especially if you are in a long-term relationship.
  2. You can even try to throw in your fantasy and see how she will react. If she is not into it, you can always turn it into a joke.

Mistake #6 – Rushing to Get Inside of Her

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Another thing we guys often do that annoys women a lot is the fact, that all we want is just to get inside her vagina as soon as possible. However, this often leads to painful and hard penetration that completely kills her mood.

Therefore, you should focus on doing the following stuff first:

  1. Undressing her in a slow and teasing way.
  2. Stimulate her whole body first.
  3. Play with her breasts and nipples.
  4. Try to tease her with vibrating panties first to make her well wet.

Keep in mind: Nothing will kill her mood quite as fast as painful penetration.

Mistake #5 – Ejaculating Too Quickly

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Every woman will tell you that if you don’t have enough sexual stamina to make both yourself and your partner happy in bed, then you’re going to run into some serious issues in your relationship sooner or later.

Therefore, you need to learn to last longer in bed as soon as possible! Luckily, there are many ways to delay your ejaculation:

  1. Stamina and numbing condoms.
  2. Numbing sprays such as Promescent or Stud 100.
  3. Edging technique.

Pay attention: Trust me, if you suffer from premature ejaculation, then you need to fix that as quickly as possible, or she will cheat on you!

Mistake #4 – Trying Too Many Positions

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Women hate switching positions often during sex, as when you stop to change it, her pleasure levels fall too quickly almost to the zero. Not only that, uncomfortable positions and angles can kill her mood in just a few minutes.

So here is my advice:

  1. Set yourself a maximum limit of 3 positions during one sex session.
  2. Always pick 2 that are comfortable for her and one that is new and extreme.
  3. Begin and finish in comfortable positions while you can experiment with the new one in the middle of your session.

Mistake #3 – Ignoring Her Verbal & Bodily Cues

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This is yet another example of why communication is the key. For many couples, lovemaking grows stagnant not because of a lack of trying, but because someone’s missing signals the other one is sending!

Let´s be honest with each other.

This is usually more of an issue for us men and our ego. Luckily, as long as you are at least a little bit perceptive, you should have no problem to fix this issue. While pleasing her, look for stuff like:

  1. Moaning and expressions of approval such as words like “Oh, yes!”
  2. Arching of her back
  3. Her chest and cheeks getting red
  4. Nipples going hard, etc.

Keep in mind: These are just a few of the most typical signs she is enjoying what you are doing. If you are perceptive enough, you will be able to give her the best sex ever!

Mistake #2 – Routine & Monotonous Stimulation

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Again, talking it out is the key! Trying new positions, scenarios, and, yes, setting the mood with different forms of foreplay can help to keep things fresh every time.

Just apply these 5 tips and you will see a significant change:

  1. Switch the bed for couch or kitchen table.
  2. Try to have risky sex at a public place or you can do it in your car.
  3. Be initiative and spontaneous!
  4. Use kinky female sex toys.
  5. Try blindfolding her and soft (or even hard) bondage.

Pay attention: Certain angles can enable you to go deeper. Therefore, you’ll want to look and listen for her cues as going too deep will result in hitting her cervix – that is often very painful (to put it mildly)!

Mistake #1 – Ignoring Other Erogenous Zones

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Ladies often express their hate towards guys who are only paying attention to their boobs and clit and not stimulating the other erogenous zones as well. There is one simple way for you to fix this.

All you need to do is to take your time and explore what she likes!

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  • Jacob

    Skipping foreplay is probably the worst mistake any man can make. In sex education they should secretly hand out a pamphlet that talks about foreplay. Women want it. Scratch that, they need it. And even though they might not ask for it, that doesn’t dismiss you from delivering it. Just plan on foreplay 95% of the time and you’ll never hear anything but compliments coming from her mouth. Oh, and lots of ‘oooohs’ and ‘aaahhhs’!

    • James Buzinko

      That is true Jacob. Many dudes do not realize this simple fact!

    • Temperlygirl

      Foreplay is a must for me! I honestly don’ know why most guys tend to skip it. It’s beneficial for both sexes and it doesn’t have to last for hours. For me even 5 minutes of foreplay work as it puts me in the mood and I’m way more horny and actually enjoy the whole deal compared to him jumping on me to get it over with.

      • James Buzinko

        Well, hopefully there will be more and more guys who will realize this.

  • MichaelB

    The only time you should be switching positions a lot is the first couple of times you bed a woman. That’s when you’re figuring out where she likes it… how she likes it… whether you should do it fast or slow… whether you should sucking something or whatever. After the third time, you should be able to go in with a game plan for making her cum.

    Although like you said in #11, you should still be able to change the game a bit from time to time. I could have my girl get on top every time without fail. Sometimes she wants it another way and we do switch up.

    This is all sound advice. I hope most men reading it know it already, lol!

    • James Buzinko

      Thanks Michael for your really valuable advice. It is golden tip!

  • PeterPez

    Man, speaking of not making any sounds during sex, I dated a lady for a year who wouldn’t make a peep no matter what I did. She was obviously into it or else we wouldn’t have been together that long. But she told me at the beginning of the relationship that she just didn’t like to make noise during sex.

    I didn’t think it would be that big of a deal until I realized how dead serious she was. I must admit, it felt like I was having sex with one of those blow up dolls. When we broke up that was one of the reasons why I left. Never again!

    • James Buzinko

      That is really a big turn off. Making sounds is a way of communicating what you like and what not and it plays a crucial part in any sexual intercourse.

  • Sienna

    Hi guys…

    I’m a woman just popping over to give my feedback on this topic – specifically #10, ignoring the cues. I wish my last boyfriend would have read this post. Whenever he did oral on me he would nibble and suck WAY to hard. It wasn’t like this all the time, but when he did it, it basically ruined the whole experience. The thing is, I would always pull away while he was doing it. It was pretty obvious that I wasn’t enjoying it, but he would try to keep going. So if you feel a woman pulling away, ask her “like this or like that?” She’ll tell you what she wants if you just ask.

    • James Buzinko

      See guys? Communication is often the alpha and omega of sex.

    • Lilyofthevalley

      This is soooooo annoying! I hate it when a guy can’t take a hint as obvious as this. I’ve had the “pleasure” of meeting some really bad “nibblers” and it seems that none of them had any idea of what to do. I honestly believe that they thought that the harder they hit it, the more I would like it! Now I speak my mind and say exactly what I like.

      • James Buzinko

        See, that is the power of communication. If you never say it, no one will know what you want.

  • Declan

    Had to laugh at number two! It reminds me of sex at a frat house, when you’re drunk after playing beer pong and you stumble to a room for some action. I’m talking to the guy who can’t get her bra strap undone after 10 minutes.

    It’s one thing to be fast and furious in the heat of the moment, but it’s another to be clumsy. Lay her down and look at her. Kiss her body as you undress her. This way you can see what you’re doing and she’ll feel romanced.

    Women like to be dazzled a bit by our skills before you put the penis inside of her. Just my 2 cents.

    • James Buzinko

      That is really good advice. Thank you Declan.

  • Patricia

    Don’t even get me started on skipping foreplay! My ex boyfriend always tried to jump the gun even though he knew it was very difficult for me to get excited without any build up, and eventually that was the catalyst for the end of our relationship.

    Please never underestimate the importance of foreplay when you are getting ready to make love with your partner, for some people it really necessary before they are able to take the next step.

    • James Buzinko

      Sure it is. Although there are women who do not want long foreplay, most of girls love it!

  • Steve

    I will be the first to admit that I can be silent during intercourse and my girlfriend absolutely hates it! Sometimes I am just filled with embarrassment for some reason whenever I am making odd moaning noises; it is very easy for me to become self conscious.

    Do you have any recommendations for removing my anxiety so that I can help her experience the maximum amount of pleasure?

    • James Buzinko

      Just start slow. If you like something just start heavily breathing and make a little moan. You will see how she will react.

  • Brenda Seymour

    Sometimes I can’t resist doing a dumb and clumsy move when undressing my hubby just because it is so funny! Can’t argue that it most certainly kills the mood though…mostly for me because I will be too busy laughing. He knows just how to get me back though, a few back scratches and a kiss on the shoulder or neck and we are back in business 😉

    • Kevin

      There’s nothing wrong with having fun during sex, especially when you’re comfortable together. At least, that’s how I see it.

      • James Buzinko

        That is really healthy opinion you have!

    • James Buzinko

      I see you know how your body works and it seems as your partner know it too. That is really great!

  • Michael Halquist

    If you are looking for a way to spice up your sex life with minimal effort, consider discussing fantasies with your significant other. My entire life I had a fantasy about having sex with a girl dressed in a formal schoolgirl outfit, but no matter how much I thought about it I could never bring myself to discuss it with whoever was my girlfriend at the time.

    Out of the blue one day, my girlfriend asked me if I had any fantasies and I jokingly mentioned the schoolgirl idea, and needless to say now our sex life is better than ever! Turns out she is totally into it and has similar fantasies, so now at least once a month we try something new and it usually turns out great.

    • James Buzinko

      Thank you Michael for sharing your tips with all of us.

  • Jessica Neumann

    The missionary position is a classic, always has been and always will be. However, if you are looking for a way to spice up your sex life try using your hand or a pillow and placing it under her bottom during sex. You will find that your penis will better stimulate her G-spot and, depending on the woman of course, she will most likely have more intense and memorable orgasms as a result. My boyfriend back in college showed me this trick and I always share it with new partners because it rocks my world!

    • Mario

      It’s a classic for so many good reasons 🙂 The access is great, and I personally think it feels a bit more intimate than other positions. But like you pointed out, there’s a lot of variations of it, so with a bit of practice i think everyone can find something that works for them.

      • James Buzinko

        That is soo true! Just try few varieties and you will definitely find something you love about this position!

      • SandraB

        That’s why I like it, Mario. It’s more intimate and you can share looks, touch each others faces, etc. I especially like to feel his abs because it always makes me even more wet than I already am. It doesn’t have to feel old, because you can add lots of variations: feet in the air, one leg on the chest, pillow under the butt and you can go at it hard time 🙂

        • James Buzinko

          That is true! Missionary has so many possibilities and varieties!

    • James Buzinko

      Sure, pillow under bottom trick works wonders!

  • jack

    I’m a virgin and I have been dating this girl as of late and I am really interested in having sex with her. I know she wants to, but I kind of shrug it off as I’m tired or just can’t do it tonight. I have a fear I’ll premature ejaculate and or not pleasure her. I really hope I can learn enough by this coming Saturday, because I am going to give it a go, no matter how bad it ends up being, I’m doing it.

    • James Buzinko

      Dude just do it. Maybe you should share with her that it is your first time and she will be more understanding even if you ejaculate quickly.

  • buzz

    I’m a man who is often silent during sex, so I suppose that’s something I should fix. Actually, there’s probably a lot of things I need to fix and soon. I know I am still guilty of some of these mistakes. 🙁

    • James Buzinko

      Dude if you know about your mistakes you need to fix them asap!

  • Ken

    I really think it all comes down to, is listening to your girl. I’ve done some of these in my life, but I always make up for it by changing myself. Failing is part of life, it’s all about how you change it to make it work. Yall just got to listen to your girls and things will be better. Also don’t do any of these things again.

    • James Buzinko

      Listening to the quest is the most crucial stuff you need to do!

  • $hawn

    Oh yes, I’ve often dealt with these mistakes before. There was a time where I actually just laid there letting this chick do all the work. It was good for me, but she complained that I didn’t do anything. Now I make sure to talk and at least move around and such. It’s not hard to do either, if anything, it makes sex that much better.

    • Penny

      I can’t even imagine that. If I had a cold fish in my bed… well hey, I’d be sleeping on the couch, no doubt about that.

      • James Buzinko

        I can only agree with you Penny.

    • James Buzinko

      It sure does!

  • Dave

    I think men expect sex to be this quick event to release stress, but you’re forgetting that a woman is there hoping to release some stress as well. I’m no saint when I say I have done some of these in the past. Some of my first attempts at sex was much like what is listed here. I sometimes didn’t move, moan, talk or get into it. I just wanted to get off and go to bed. Now I pleasure my woman, I use foreplay. I also make sure to get into it more, I take control, sometimes getting to playful aggression or whatever you call it. My girlfriend gets into that.

    Roleplay is one key factor too.

    • James Buzinko

      You would wonder how well are roleplay situations accepted by chicks as well.

  • ChrisJ

    My girlfriend always asks me to make more noise during sex, but it just feel so awkward, I sound like a goddamn moose in heat. How can I get over that, she seems to really like it when I moan…

    Good list man, thanks for that!

    • James Buzinko

      You are welcome ChrisJ. I hope it will elevate your sex life!

  • Susan P

    I had the foreplay issue with my bf at the start of our relationship, but after we talked and such he saw the errors of his ways, and now we have much better sex 😀 He also seems to be enjoying the extra foreplay, idk why he was so keen on rushing all the time!

    • Gladiz

      I wish any of my talks with my boyfriend went so well. I can’t say anything to him without him taking it way too personal, and then he tells me I wrecked the mood. It’s like I’m doomed to either have bad sex forever, or risk hurting his ridiculously fragile ego.

      • James Buzinko

        Well, it seems that you are in a very peculiar situation.

      • Shauna

        He’s projecting to you Gladiz and you are letting him. Sex is important and the idea that you would resign yourself to bad sex for life is not fair on either of you.
        You will eventually either leave him or even cheat on him. You are human and have needs to and whether they are sexual or other, if they are not met, you will come to a serious crisis in your relationship.
        His ego is out of kilter and he needs to grow up and learn life is not all about him.

        • James Buzinko

          That is true, you should listen to Shauna. Obviously she know what is she talking about.

  • Dylan

    Ditto on the trying too many positions! I once killed the mood with my gf because we were so eager to try all these new positions, and we just ended up getting tired and hurty and just wanting to fucking cum and cuddle already. So yeah, stick to 2 or 3 at the max.

    • James Buzinko

      Two or three positions during one session is the best to go for!

  • Nik

    Nice list, but something to add on the not lasting enough point: as long as you continue trying to bring her to orgasm with whatever you can – mouth, fingers, whatevs- she won’t mind as much. If you leave her unfinished while you cum and doze off, lost of resentment will build up.

    • James Buzinko

      This is a must read comment to every guy out there!

    • Amanda

      Too true Nik. A decent woman will understand that it can’t be helped how long a guy lasts but as a wife of someone who suffers from premature ejaculation, I have to agree that “oops sorry” and then them rolling over is a passion killer and wears thin fast.
      After me finally flipping my lid, we discussed this and whilst he still doesn’t listen to the advice you have here, we do use “delay” condoms and they are amazing!

      • James Buzinko

        Thanks Amanda for sharing your experience with the delay condoms. I am glad they are helping you…

  • Lilly

    Ugh number 3 should be common sense for life, not only for sex. I mean seriously guys, it’s not that hard – take a shower if you want your dick sucked, no one wants to taste dick cheese. And also no one wants to fuck someone who smells like sweat and the such. SO yeah, water is your best friend!

    • James Buzinko

      Thanks Lilly for pointing this out!

  • Samantha

    communication is so important. If you don’t demonstrate that you’re willing to open up about sex and share your fantasies and explore new experiences, your partner is not going to feel safe opening up either. Maybe you’re just not that complicated and you don’t feel like you have anything to share, but maybe your partner does, they’re still not going to feel safe until one of you sets the precedent and begins an open discussion.

    • James Buzinko

      You can not be closer to truth Samantha!

  • Aimie

    Definitely on #2. Especially when I’m wearing an expensive bra! Let’s just say, if you break the clasp on my $500 Agent Provocateur bra, you won’t wake up in bed with me, you’ll wake up in a hospital bed.

    • James Buzinko

      Hahahah Aimie that one was hilarious!

    • Serena

      I laughed hard at this and agree, sometimes guys can be clumsy. “Undress yourself, I can do my own, I’m a big girl now!” huh? lol.
      Side note…$500 bra? Mine cost $15 on average!

      • James Buzinko

        Sure, clumsy guy is not very attractive…

  • Jackie

    Sex starts way before the bedroom and many guys really don’t get this. If a woman is stressed from raising your kids, working all day and general everyday life, you need to make sure she is relaxed first. Make sure you do this just because you love her and don’t ask for sex every time or she will know why you are doing it and it will feel like yet another demand on her.
    Every so often, run a bath for her and give her a glass of wine and a book and that is it. If you don’t ask for anything and do it just because you love her, chances are you’ll get sex anyway.

    • James Buzinko

      Hey Jackie. This is really great comment and advice for every guy! Dudes you need to read this and learn!

  • Lexi

    No 10 is where communication is vital. Even between the same two people, you want different sex at different times. One day you want slow, passionate and loving sex and another time you will want hot, dirty and hard sex. I sort this out by setting the tempo and the mood. I’m lucky in that my man can read some of my signals and is happy to oblige to either. Like wise, it is give and take and I don’t even get to the bedroom if he wants the naughty kind of sex!

    • James Buzinko

      You explained it really well. I could not do it better. Thanks.

  • Michaela

    I’m not necessarily big for waxed chests; I can take it or leave it. But I simply can’t stand super bushy armpits and cocks. There was this guy I met through a friend of mine and I ended up giving him oral after we first met. At first I saw a big black dot and no dick, that’s how big the bush was. Like, come on, just shave the thing already, do you want it to peak out of your pants?

    • James Buzinko

      Lol, that is hilarious! Really great comment Michaela.

  • dreamer

    My problem seems to be no.9. I get bored after 5 minutes in a position and I feel the need to change it up. This caused lots of tension in my past relationships because whenever they felt great I wanted to change places or position. What should I do, it’s like I can’t control myself?!

    • James Buzinko

      I am sorry but I can not advise you anything else than communicate this to your partners.

  • JohhnyGuy

    I used to be super shy around girls and was terrified of telling them about my fantasies. My current girlfriend used a different strategy and now I can’t wait to fulfill them. She said we should both write down what we would like and then let the other one read it. This way I know what she wants and she knows what I want and it turns out we both have very kinky ideas. Then we speak a bit about them and put them in action.

    • James Buzinko

      That is excellent way to share your fantasies with others!

  • stanBeasly

    I struggle with foreplay as my foreplay skills are more of a joke than anything. My girlfriend is not too keen on my foreplay, and when I try, I just kill the mood. I suppose I could learn to do it much better, but I doubt anything I do will entice my gf into it. We do have sex, but foreplay doesn’t come into play at all.

    • James Buzinko

      Well, try to read one of my latest articles where I have discussed some great tips to make foreplay one of her best experience! I bet it will help you.

  • Ryan U.

    I’ve been told by girls that I am too silent when having sex. I guess my thing is that moaning is not my thing. I love when women moan, but I like to just have sex. I try to make some noises and I try to talk to women during sex, like saying dirty things, so hopefully I cover up not moaning by talking.

    • James Buzinko

      I bet if you will start appropriate dirty talk then all chicks will be happy 😀

  • Jerry

    Hygiene is a must when having sex for me. I always make sure to take a shower before sex and my girlfriend always takes a shower before sex as well. I clean everything from my neck down to my ass. I like to be as clean as possible when I have sex with my girlfriend.

    • James Buzinko

      That is really good approach you should maintain in your daily routine.

  • Nick Rodney

    Women love fantasies so when I ask my girl to throw down a fantasy I also tell her my ideas and we just role play like crazy. It’s very fun and exciting and women go crazy for it.

    • James Buzinko

      That is amazing feedback dude. I will try it out as well!

  • JJ

    Never ever skip foreplay. Whomever does so are usually scared to give it a try or are awful at it. I used to be awful too, but hey, it is what it is. Also I don’t try to make a show of undressing myself, because I’m not a pretty guy, so I just undress as fast as possible and get down to business. 😉

    • James Buzinko

      That is really great approach. You need to make foreplay techniques to fit to your look!

  • Ian A.

    There is so much that can go wrong. I completely agree. I’ve done some laughable things in bed that would get a girl to just leave or say no to sex that night. I’ve skipped foreplay, undressed oddly and wanted to do many different positions often. I’ve learned from those mistakes though.

    • James Buzinko

      That is the most important thing to do. Learn from your mistakes and that will move you many steps forward than a success.

  • Liam

    I’ve suffered all of these in my lifetime. I have had premature ejaculation my whole life, many times it happened with many girls. I do foreplay with my girlfriend and we seem to do pretty good together. It’s hard, but I am attempting to give new things a shot. I will make sure to avoid these 12 mistakes from now on.

    • James Buzinko

      That is the mindset for a success! I wish you luck in your endeavor for avoiding these mistakes.

  • Randy

    I can see many men having a problem with undressing in a sexy fashion. Not many men can literally pull it off like a pro. I know I have had a ton of problems with it. I can’t do a sexy dance, and strip for women, or strip women down in a sexy fashion. I would gladly practice though. 😉

    • James Buzinko

      Sure, only thing you can do is to practice a lot!

  • sammy

    3- sweet honey for the night!!!

    whenever i have sex I always seem to hurt the girls front&back doors, its meant to be a ‘good thing’ but its just getting me paranoid after all the split condoms… damn

  • Clara

    Skipping foreplay is a definite no-no…I had to have a few talks with my boyfriend regarding that one, and he didn’t seem to get it until I flat-out refused sex. Then he got a wake up call lol

    Sometimes I think men just need a little training and incentive to stop making the mistakes they do in bed. Communication is key though…I think that if I hadn’t told him I would’ve become very resentful in time…

    • James Buzinko

      That is true Clara. I would say that men need (at least from beginning) a lot of training and incentives. The easiest way to make your man do what you want in bed is to use method of “carrots and sticks”.

  • Pietro

    ugh #3…you’d think men who don’t groom themselves don’t even get to the point of having sex, let alone the woman being put off by it while doing it. seriously…as a dude, let me tell you: there is no excuse for smelling like a pigsty and looking like it. a little pomp goes a long way to attract women…

    • James Buzinko

      Guys read this comment repeatedly. It is worth remembering.

  • Luke

    I’m guilty of the trying too many positions thing…never again! Me and my girl went on a Kama Sutra challenge. It did not go well. She ended up bruised and I got a sprained ankle. Sex can be an extreme sport when you try too many positions :/ Now, consider me boring, but since then I just use 2 at most every time we fuck. I’d rather not have her sprain something too

    • James Buzinko

      Dude two/three during one session are great but remember to switch them from time to time.

  • Nina

    Off I hate it when men are completely silent during sex. You don’t need to moan like a porn star, but at least grunt occasionally or tell me when I’m doing something nice :/ One of my exes was always silent during sex, it was like getting fucked by a corpse. Afterwards I always felt insecure about how I did in bed because he never told me :/ That ass.

    • James Buzinko

      See dudes? Make some sounds as women need stimulation of all senses during sex in order to have great sex and orgasm.

  • Peter

    I don’t think lasting long enough is the issue…more like not lasting AND ignoring her needs after you cum. I came super fast when I was younger (it was psychological, treated now) and my partners never complained because I made sure to attend to their needs after I came: fingering, oral, whatever it took. As long as you finish her off, she won’t mind.

    • James Buzinko

      I can only agree with you on this one Peter. As long as you focus on her this should not be an huge issue in relationship.

  • christine

    It’s kind of sad when men can’t share their fantasies…the secret to an awesome sex life is basically communication. as long as you communicate, both parties are aware of what the other likes and can act on it…women are not mind readers!

    • James Buzinko

      This pays equally to men. We cant read minds so please, men and women, learn to communicate.

  • Paul W.

    Erogenous zones MUST be explored…I’ve bedded many women and each one of them was different in regard to what they liked in bed. There is no set rule of action to get a woman to orgasm (unfortunately) so you’re really right in putting that on the list…women are not machinery, to push a few buttons to get a result…

    • James Buzinko

      The only rule is to get in to her head and fulfill all her sexual fantasies, even those she does not realize.

  • Nick

    Trying too many positions is an overlooked one but so important! I’ve had my dick die on me after switching too much because there was too much switching and too little fucking :/ That was incredibly embarrassing.

    • James Buzinko

      Thankfully I never had this issue yet but you never know…

  • Niels

    I think the top mistake is not communicating…in and out of the bed! So many friends of mine have issues with their women simply because they can’t be arsed to talk about sex. It’s fucking, everyone does it, stop being so ashamed of discussing it and admitting you can’t read her mind :/

    • James Buzinko

      That is put in a simple manner but you are right. Key is communication. That is valid for every angle of your life not only sex.

  • Lucy

    One of my exes broke my bra clasp trying to get it off me :/ He was such a clutz that he ruined a perfectly good bra just to satisfy his male ego at being able to undress me!!! Ever since then I insist on unclasping my own bra, no matter who I have sex with…

    • James Buzinko

      Well, that is something that should not happen at all. Every dude should know how to undress a girl properly.