The Layman’s Guide to Anal Sex


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Almost everybody’s thought about “knocking at the back door” once in their lifetime. However, very few people end up pulling the trigger simply because there are a lot of myths, fears, and misconceptions as far as anal sex is concerned!

If you are looking for a fantastic way to add some spice to your love life, then this type of intercourse is right up your alley. Of course, if you have a partner who is willing to try some new things!

However, there are some do´s and dont´s with regards to anal sex you need to follow! Luckily, this layman’s guide to “backdoor” sex will give you everything you need to know!

Tip #1 – NEVER Pull a “Sneak Attack”!

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This advice is worth repeating. Never try to enter her anus without her knowledge as it will be painful for her and will ruin her mood for a very long time!

You have to communicate your interest in anal sex with your partner and make sure that she (or he) is 100% cool with it! Although this is going to take a bit of work up front, the payoff is well worth it.

Pay attention: Before we dive into the “nuts and bolts” of anal sex, remember that if she’s just not interested in it – or doesn’t want to have it right now – let it drop. Some people just aren’t into it at all, and there is nothing you can do about it!

Tip #2 – Showers Are an Absolute Must for Anal Sex

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For obvious reasons, you need to make everything as clean and neat as humanly possible – and a good, long hot shower is going to be appreciated by your partner. Who knows, maybe it will turn into a steamy shower sex?

You might even use an anal douche product to make sure that all is spotless, especially “under the hood,” but most times this isn’t 100% necessary!

Pay attention: A lot of people freak out that their feces will be everywhere – but that’s just not the way that this works. Cleaning things up will help both of you be just a bit more comfortable, and comfort is critical when you’re talking about anal sex!

Tip #3 – Spend Twice as Much Time with Warm Up

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Though some hot fantasies and scenarios come along with the “backdoor sex,” both of you should be properly warmed up ahead of time.

Not only are you going to want to use a ton of lube (I will deal with this in the tip #5), but you need to ramp up the foreplay to get both of you in the mood!

Start off with your typical foreplay or throw in a few new wrinkles from this guide and at some point begin massaging her butt. First use only your fingers but then use a mini vibrator (see tip #6)!

Keep in mind: Don’t be afraid of getting a little bit rougher than you would have before, actually warming it up plays a crucial role in creating that emotional, passionate, energetic connection that will heat things up!

Tip #4 – Make Sure to Talk About It First

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Even if you are not typically a dirty talker, you’re going to want to try to have a clear and open line of communication. Both of you need to be 100% comfortable with the way that things are progressing.

Remember, a lot of people are terrified of anal sex before they’ve had one!

Often, this is caused by many myths and misconceptions. These often include fears of how much it’s going to hurt, how messy it’s going to be, or how it might mean that you are secretly “gay” deep down inside.

Pay attention: Literally none of those things are real if you do everything correctly! You want to make sure that you both are on the same page as you get things started!

Tip #5 – Use Extra Bottle of Silicone  Lube If Needed!

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I know you probably think that I’m joking a little when I’m saying that you would be best off using an industrial sized bottle of synthetic lubricant, but I’m not.

We’re talking about an incredibly tight spot here, one that doesn’t provide “lubrication” on its own!

The last thing that you want to do is derail this amazingly impressive ride by creating more friction and you should.

Pay attention: You need to eliminate all potential pain by lubing it all up – and then adding some more as you go in! However, water-based and oil-based lubricants just can’t keep up with the friction. Therefore, try silicone-based lube.

Tip #6 – Always Start with The Smallest Fingers & Toys

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The most crucial thing you can take from this post with regards to anal sex is the following saying:

Slow and steady is going to help you to win this race!

You need to warm her anus up with your fingers or anal sex toys, actually making sure that she is all relaxed and 100% comfortable with everything that’s going on.

Keep in mind: Trust me that the last thing that you want to do is dive right in and “tear it up”! Regardless of what you’ve seen in the porn movies, I assure you that you won’t ever get another chance if you just start hammering away.

Just make sure that both of you have fun with it! After all, we’re talking about sex here. Keep open lines of communication, use gallons and gallons of lube, and make things slow and steady and you’ll be just fine.

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  • Dan

    I’ve never done anal sex before. My wife has often asked me to perform oral on her ass, and I’ve never really wanted to ever do that. My wife has a nice ass, but the idea freaks me out. I have no problem with having anal sex with her, but any mention of my mouth down there is not something I would bother with.

    • James Buzinko

      Well, to give her oral stimulation of her anus requires higher level of hygiene and trust!

  • Stacey B.

    Anal sex is wonderful. My boyfriend and I have done it a few times already, first time was a bit rough. We didn’t start off with fingers or toys, so that’s probably where the problems started. We later included toys, which helped. But I don’t think I’m there just yet.

    • James Buzinko

      Well that is the first mistake you made. Always start with the fingers or toys to make her anus gradually expand.

  • Carlson

    Hey everyone. I have been trying to get my girlfriend to do anal sex, but she’s very hesitant. I’ve told her I’d take it as slow as she wants and that we’ll gradually play around with it for a bit to get it going. I’m not about going full force and going right into it and causing her any pain.

    • James Buzinko

      Well Carlos, if you have told her this and she is still hesitant, then you should not force her to do so.

  • NotThisGuy

    Yeah I will not be doing any anal sex with anyone. My girlfriend has said she would be willing to do it, but I am just not sure I am really interested in doing it. I guess I’m overly paranoid about dumb things.

    • James Buzinko

      Do not worry as anal sex is not for everyone.

  • Frank C.

    The first time I tried anal was with a this one girl I really liked a lot. I didn’t read into anal sex at all, but she wanted to try it out. So we did. I started to penetrate and she was in pain big time. I asked if she wanted me to stop and she said no. We continued for a brief time until I said I couldn’t do it anymore since it was obviously hurting her. I told her we’d try anal again another time and I instead performed oral on her to make her feel better.

    We later on tried anal again, after I read some stuff. I simply fingered her a bit and she was really into it. She offered to try it on me, but I declined the offer. I heard men like it too, because of their prostate, but I wasn’t too sure if I would ever try that out or not.

    • James Buzinko

      Well, it is good that you stopped. Actually, you could really harm her if she was in a big pain.

  • Lanna

    Anal sex has not been my cup of tea. I of course didn’t follow the rules when I first started, so I have fears of going through with it these days. My boyfriend who is okay with me not doing it, has asked me a few times to give it a try. He knows to take it slow, but I am still scared.

    • James Buzinko

      Sometimes, your first bad experience will create some kind of psychological block. If you really want to overcome this one, you may try to have some wine before actually trying it out in order to stay more relaxed physically as well as psychologically.

  • mick

    Once you learn to properly do anal sex, you will make your women happy. My wife was very hesitant at first, but we made it work. It’s all about going slow like the article said. Also I agree with Lacigreen on how the anus is very sensitive and it doesn’t lube itself, so tearin it is very possible.

    • James Buzinko

      Sure! You always need to use plenty of lube and add it regularly!

  • Trevor H

    This girl I dated for a few weeks was really into anal sex, and I gave it a try. I enjoyed it more than the vagina, it was more tight and I really could get into that. My current girlfriend though, isn’t into the idea. I was wondering, what should I do to get her to give it a try? After reading this I know a little more about playing it safer, so I will tell her I’d take it slow and not rush it.

    Should I push her into it, or should I just not bother if she isn’t into it?

    • James Buzinko

      Try to bring it out from time to time but do not press her as she will avoid it at each occasion.