The Advanced Guide to Talking Dirty


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Dirty talk can be a very powerful weapon in your arsenal. You might think of it as just cursing, very graphic sayings, or anything that is said during intercourse.

Or, you might believe that people do not always like it. Here, I will give you the complete rundown on what this is, what to do and what to avoid, ideas for those just starting out, and much more.

If you have ever wanted to really wow your partner with your mouth (in more than one sense), then read on!

The Basics of Dirty Talk

Surprisingly, the term “dirty talk” covers a variety of things. From subtle hints to blatant graphic tell-all sexy stuff, there are at least three different types you can explore (I provide free examples for each below).

This is anything that you say to your lover to make her/him feel attractive. There are several reasons why you should use it regularly:

  1. Builds Attraction – It can make your partner feel loved and attractive.
  2. Enhanced Confidence – It boosts self-esteem as well as makes both of you turned on by the moment.
  3. Adds Spice to Sex Live – It definitely will improve your relationship, especially if you notice your love life has been particularly bland, and uninteresting lately.
  4. Impress her – You can also charm those you would like to date, see more of, or just get to stay a little bit longer.

Despite what you may have heard, both women and men love it. Although everyone is different, your partner’s gender has no bearing on what they do or do not consider attractive and sexy.

Keep in mind: Even the shyest of us can appreciate some nasty words from time to time, and at various levels. They key is finding out what works best with however you happen to be with at the time.

While some like to take it easy, others love the graphic and kinky stuff. You may want to have a discussion about what they do and do not like.

The Perfect Way to Talk Dirty

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Is there a secret to talking dirty? Some would say – “Yes” – while others would say – “Just go with it.” However, when you talk dirty, be sure to think about both two things.

First, you need to know what you are going to say (below are some examples you can use tonight). Second, you need to focus on the way you are presenting your words. You should

You definitely should:

  • Talk Slowly
  • Use Deeper, Sultry Voice
  • Whisper into Her Ear

Keep in mind: A sultry whisper, even if what is said is not that graphic can be devastatingly sexy. While making love together, even the simplest noise or turn of phrase can really serve as a proper turn on!

Feel free to experiment while talking dirty, and remember to stay confident. Do not let embarrassment keep you from having fun.

3 Levels with Universal Examples

Level #1 – Soft Dirty Talk

Soft dirty talk may not be overtly sexual. It may be said just as a compliment. For example, you may say:

  • Gee… your outfit looks so sexy tonight.
  • I love the things you do to me!
  • “Your body is so sexy.  I’m so lucky to have you.”
  • “I always feel so good around you.”
  • “I need you right now.”
  • “I just can’t get enough of your legs.”
  • “You always know how to turn me on right away.”
  • “I get so turned on just thinking about the last time we made love.”

Keep in mind: Just make your partner feel sexy and wanted. However, you have to be honest and base your compliments on the reality.

Level #2 – Medium Dirty Talk

This is often used as foreplay, and can be a bit more graphic. You may say something like:

  • I want to be with you so badly right now,” while kissing.
  • Oh, that feels so good! Do that again!
  • Your wish is my command!
  • “You have great tits; I love playing with them.”
  • “You can have me any way you want, babe.”
  • “I love the things you do with your tongue.”
  • “I just want to be used by you tonight. Can I be your personal toy?”
  • “I want to tie you up later and have my way with you.”

Keep in mind: This may or may not to be graphic at all. This depends on what you both prefer. Often, simple moaning and groaning are enough.

Level #3 – Hard-Core Dirty Talk

The third category may involve slang or even swear words. Although this can seem weird when out of context, it can be very attractive when done in the heat of the moment!

For example, you may say:

  • F**k me harder, baby!
  • “I’m going to f**k you until you beg for mercy.”
  • Your (insert noun) tastes so good!
  • “I love licking you all over.”
  • “Use me like your f**k-toy!”
  • What a sweet sexy ass!
  • Oh, baby, that was the best fuck I’ve ever had. Thank you for that.
  • Oh (insert sexy nickname here), I love it when you (verb) my (noun).”

Keep in mind: Feel free to experiment with all kinds of different phrases while with your partner, both inside and outside of the bed. Chances are, she will love it!

Must Read for Every Newbie Dirty Talker

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If you are in the beginning, you may find dirty face-to-face talk intimidating, or even embarrassing. Don’t sweat it. Instead, you can start out by:

  1. Sending kinky emails or text messages as it is much easier to do. This way you can gauge her reaction and find footing for your bed time.
  2. Using softer forms that are not so graphic. For some people, especially beginner dirty talkers, phrases such as “Oh God!”, “I love your outfit!”, or “Your (insert noun) are/is so sexy right now!” can be more than enough.

Keep in mind: You need to start slowly and observe how she reacts to you. Just experiment to see what she likes the best when it comes to dirty talk.

4 Worst Things You Need to Avoid

When beginning with the dirty talk, there are many things you can do wrong. Here is a list of the most common mistakes you should avoid:

  1. Speaking only about yourself. Instead, try to focus on telling her what you want to do to her.
  2. Nervous stuttering. You need to sound dominant and strong to make it work.
  3. Not listening to her. You always have to listen to what she says and how she reacts to your words.
  4. Being too vague. You need to use details but still leave some place for her imagination.

If you are the object of dirty talk, always keep in mind that he or she is trying to flatter you, not to make you feel uncomfortable or strange.

Extra tip: Remember to use your words according to the situation, as well as your relationship status!

BONUS: A Few Other Ideas You Need to Try

If you require more inspiration, there are a few ideas for you to experience with:

  • Sharing – Tell your partner what you want to do to her, as well as what you want. Let her know when you like something, and how much you like it.
  • Repeating – Repeat what you just did to them in the bedroom, or what you have done in the past that was memorable. All these things are awesome places to start, and can be a fantastic way to get her in the mood.
  • Phone Sex & Sexting – You may even want to try phone sex, sexting, or just teasing one another face-to-face. Trust me that all of these options are amazing.

Pay attention: Feeling like you have no real ideas of your own? Think about reading erotic literature to one another, or perhaps even alone, to see what others consider attractive.

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  • Brian

    I can only imagine how funny it would be to see me talking dirty to any girl. I wouldn’t even know what to say, even after reading this I know I will end up being horrible at it. I’m not saying this article wasn’t informative and helpful, I’m sure it will help many people, but I can’t be helped about how bad at things I can truly be. When I finally meet the woman of my dreams, maybe I’ll give it a shot.

    • James Buzinko

      Do not worry Brian. Just start with simple stuff like “I love the things you do with me”…

  • Rick A.

    I have talked dirty to past girlfriends while in bed, some really liked it, while some did not. I suppose it’s hit and miss when it comes to talking dirty, though I have tried many times and failed many times. My current girlfriend though, loves it when I talk dirty to her, so it’s always been something I make sure to do with her. She isn’t really good at it though, I find it cute though.

    • James Buzinko

      Sure, not every girl loves it! You need to try to check it out by soft stuff and see how she reacts!

  • York

    Talking dirty isn’t as easy as most people think. You can just go in there and call a woman names and expert her to be turned on. I completely agree with everything this article says. Women aren’t looking for some dumb dirty talk, they want to be turned on, they want to be exhilarated. You have to be sexy, you can’t try to be funny or anything like that. Well, some women may enjoy that I suppose.

    • James Buzinko

      There are many women who are hot for hard and strong dirty talk but most are happy with its medium and soft forms.

  • Isla

    To all the guys out there, just be confident and have fun with it. Talking dirty isn’t always about getting it right, it’s about making women happy. I have had bad experiences with talking dirty. And I have had good experiences. Just be comfortable and your dirty talk will work, well may work.

    • James Buzinko

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us Isla.

  • Greg

    I like the soft/medium sides of talking dirty. I don’t like going to the hard version. I feel like I’m going to offend my girl or something. I prefer to tell her how sexy she is, how awesome she is, stuff that’ll make her smile. We’ve tried going a little further with talking dirty, but it rarely works.

    • James Buzinko

      This is typical preference of most people I know!

  • Jim

    I have to admit as a man I don’t always come through with the dirty talk I just want to get in and get my nut, but I actually realize dirty talk helps with the ladies.

    • James Buzinko

      Sure it does as it stimulates their main sex organ – Brain!

  • Gemma

    I just want to say that as a female I love dirty talk and I love to hear it.

    • James Buzinko

      Thanks Gemma for sharing your personal preference!

  • Jeff

    I don’t think women know how hot dirty talk is for men. We like shows during sex like even something as simle as leaving underwear on or moaning more.

    • James Buzinko

      You are so right Jeff. Many dudes love this stuff!

  • Stacy

    Greg, I don’t think you should worry about offending her. My boyfriend calls me his dirty little slut and I actually like it. Now if he called me that during a discussion then there would be problems! Don’t be afraid to try new things you’d be surprised what she likes, but is scared to say.

    • James Buzinko

      Stacy your words are truthful. The communication barrier is the biggest killer of sexual life!

  • Honey Bun

    As a woman that has been married for over 7 years, I can you , tell that talking dirty is a secret to a successful marriage/relationship. My hubby is not much of a talker but he loves hearing it. It’s good for the male ego. Most guys want to feel like a superstar during intimate times.They like enthusiasm, thats why guys enjoy watching porn. Because porn stars always look like they enjoy “it”.

    • James Buzinko

      Well, you just clearly disclosed the biggest secret behind making every guy satisfied and happy in long term relationship.

  • Chris

    I love when women dirty talk! It makes the experience much better and enjoyable. Act like a pornstar! I like a girl that will make me want to see her all the time. Some girls are so boring they just lay there like logs lol

    • James Buzinko

      Well, some girls are just lazy to move on. Other are enthusiastic more than you will like it.

  • Brenda

    Ladies if you want to please your guy, you should talk dirty! You don’t need to be over the top dirty, but you can say things like “you’re the best, its so good, I love it when you do that, It’s so big, it hurts” Guys love to feel like they are the best in bed. Even though we know that they most likely are not. It is a good ego boost for them lol

    • James Buzinko

      Yes, but make these compliment appropriate. Do not tel a dude who is “just” medium sized that he is so huge he will rip you apart.

  • Heather

    I agree with Brenda, guys love to be told they are the best. Its kind of odd because I feel like women do not care about being the best. Besides I once read that the ugliest chicks are the best in bed lol. Anyways, girls like to be told that you love them and how pretty they are.

  • Ty

    Thanks for the guide! My problem is that when my girl starts talking dirty, she gets more freaky. I have to concentrate on not “ending” the show that I become a mute, I enjoy it so much, that I feel like if I start talking I won’t be able to continue. I remember one time I did try to talk dirty- it was terrible because my throat was all dry so I sounded like Darth Vader lol, lucky my girlfriend just ignored it.

    • James Buzinko

      😀 Thanks for sharing your Darth Vader story with us dude.

  • http://Yahoo Dagwood

    I think that most women like a dominate man in bed. Dirty talk makes men appear to be more dominant. But you have to figure out what your woman likes. Dirty talk is only part of the equation though. Some women want things a little rough once in awhile. Like just taking them.
    Throw them on the bed, literally and undress her roughly, without ruining her clothes, and ravage her while talking dirty. Most women will go wild at being dominated like that. Women are turned on by confidence in the bedroom. I had a one night stand one time, well an after lunch rondevu that was pre planned.

    The second the hotel room door closed I pinned her up against the wall and forcefully kissed her hard. Her knees buckled and she came instantly. I spent several hours taking her, over and over while talking dirty. I totally enjoyed her and I would still be with her today but she wouldn’t leave me alone after that. She loved it and wanted more.

    A LOT MORE!! Talking moving in with her and non stop calling and texting how she was in love with me. Be careful with this stuff. On the right woman you will have your hands full and I’m not just talking full of a hot woman.