Picking Up Girls in Bars Is Easier with These 7 Tips


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REMEMBER: These TIPS Are Really POWERFUL. They May Make Her ADDICTED to You! Do Not ABUSE Them! These Strategies Helped Over 8,000 Readers! Tip Number 2 is WICKED!

Picking up girls at bars seems simple for some people, but for the most guys, it turns into a disaster! Every man has that one friend that gets any chick he wants when he walks into a nightclub.

This is not something that you need to be born with, but rather it is a skill that any dude can learn!

If you want to be able to pick up any girl at the bar, the following 7 tips will help you boost your success.

Tip #7 – Do Not Take It Too Seriously & Ignore What Women Think of You

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The key to success with a bar pick-up is to take it easy. All too often men will take rejection to heart and will no longer try to get another woman.

Instead, have fun and never take it too seriously. There will be some women that are interested and some that are not. If you are rejected, simply laugh and move on to the next girl.

Pay attention: The worst thing that you can do is let rejection get in the way of a perfectly fun evening. If you do not plan on having a long relationship with her, don’t put too many feelings out there. After all, most people hooking up in bars are looking for fun and not the love of their lives.

Tip #6 – Stop Sending Drinks Blindingly


The days of sending drinks to a random girl are simply not as plentiful as before. If you value your money, you will only send them to a girl, who:

  • You plan to approach immediately!
  • That you have made eye contact with frequently!

Keep in mind: You want her to know that you are the one that sent the drink.

Tip #5 – Do Not Hesitate to Make Your Move

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Hesitation is what leaves the most beautiful girl leaving the room without a man by her side. Did you know that most men will not approach a woman that they think is out of their league?

This is just plain silly as you have to try and make a good impression. Making a move must be done, or you will face immediate failure.

Pay attention: It never hurts to talk to her and see if there are any sparks between the two of you. Waiting to make the move may even end up in someone else seizing the moment!

Tip #4 – Pay Attention to Her Friends as Well

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You know what is worse than hesitating to make your move? Making a move and ignoring her friends! You must be mindful of the company that she keeps.

If her buddies like you, this will bolster your chances of actually hitting it off. Women will want you to acknowledge their friends.

Pay attention: You must approach your chosen one first, and then make conversation with her closest circle as well!

Tip #3 – Be Interested in Her & Not Just Having Sex

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Some chicks are only looking for sex, and some want to have an emotional bond before any real action begins. This will vary considerably from one girl to the next, but one thing is sure.

You will be much better off learning about her!

Keep in mind: Ask her questions about her life and attempt to make a connection. This will often lead to better sex, and you may even find a long-term partner in the process!

Tip #2 – Try to Bring Her to a Quiet Spot

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The bar is loud and not the kind of location where you can get to know a person. Since this is the case, you will want to try bringing her to a quieter place to chat.

There are some issues you may face, including:

  • She may be afraid!
  • Ladies want their friends around!
  • The location may not offer such spot!

Keep in mind: Outside bars may provide a quiet place or a simple walk in the park may allow you to get to know her better. If possible, try bringing her to such place so that distractions are kept to a minimum, and the 2 of you can talk the night away.

Tip #1 – Lead Her Physically & Mentally

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When you pick up a woman at the bar, you want to be the clear leader in the relationship. This means that you will want to:

  • Be social – Ask questions, keep the conversation going and make jokes that she will laugh at.
  • Change her environment – Suggest moving to a new table, buy the drinks and take control of her evening.
  • Step it up – Make the first move for a kiss, hug or any further sexual advances.

Keep in mind: Women love it when a man takes control of the night so that they can have fun. You will want to be a confident lead and always listen to her suggestions if they are mentioned. You have to be her leader, but always aim to be the pleasing one by following her wants!

Hey folks! My pen name is James Buzinko (a.k.a. Stallion) and I want to make this THE GREATEST place for every guy to master the arts of love, dating and attraction! I am young, free and my motto is "Carpe Diem".
  • Samira

    Buying drinks isn’t a guaranteed method to get a chick anymore and you get this from a girl. Whenever a random guy buys me a drink I just smile and enjoy the drink haha! I don’t think it’s required to go to the guy’s table and start chatting. Make sure the chick is into you before spending money on drinks!

    • http://thestallionstyle.com/ James Buzinko

      The last sentence is the golden rule of ordering drinks! Remember it and repeat it all the times you want to buy one for her.

  • Alphonso

    I don’t feel comfortable picking girls in bars or in super crowded places because if she says no or acts like shit everyone will look at me. I tend to approach girls in more low key places like the park or a supermarket when there are only a few people around to witness.

    • http://thestallionstyle.com/ James Buzinko

      That is really good approach to the whole thing of picking up chicks. But I do not think you should pay attention to whatever others think.

  • Xavi

    Tip 4 is gold – NEVER approach a girl without acknowledging her friends as well. Talk to her first but then make small chat with her group as well. Girls can be so bitchy sometimes so try to be nice and cute without “spamming” her with garbage pick-lines. Good luck guys!

    • http://thestallionstyle.com/ James Buzinko

      Thanks a lot for your feedback Xavi. I really appreciate it.

  • Dania

    If she’s a regular at that bar and you’ve noticed her several times, order for her the drink she likes most. This is how I met my current boyfriend and the fact that he paid attention and surprised me was what attracted me the most. Yeah, now we joke that he was a stalker but at the time it was cute and I actually felt flattered.

    • http://thestallionstyle.com/ James Buzinko

      That was a really clever move from his side. Hat down before his effort.

  • Ozon10

    This article couldn’t have come handier for me, James, thank you! I moved to a new city and a few blocks from where I live there’s this really nice and cozy bar that I go every night. I am currently single and want to pick up a really interesting girl I’ve noticed the last few days but I didn’t know where to start. I will make my move and see how it goes.

    • http://thestallionstyle.com/ James Buzinko

      Sure you should make your move. Just keep in mind these tips and you should enjoy great success.

  • John Dee

    Buying girls drinks is the guaranteed method to an empty wallet and unsatisfying night. I find it ludicrous how most girls nowadays consider it mandatory for a guy to buy them a drink to even get to talk to him. That’s like alcohol prostitution or something – you don’t get to talk to me until you pay :/ It sucks, and it’s just an attitude of entitlement I’d rather not deal with. I’d rather pick up girls in bookstores and buy them books than get women drunk just so they can talk to me

  • Christine

    I would advice to not push number 6 too early, or the lady in question might feel threatened. Not every woman thinks you might be a rapist, but you just can’t be safe enough. It’s best to offer that only if she is clearly interested in you and you’ve had a long enough conversation. You could also follow up with “Let’s tell your friends where you’re going so they don’t get worried and then we’ll ditch this place” to showcase that you have no ill will towards her.

    News has made women so paranoid unfortunately. It’s hard not to be when you see so much violence everywhere tho

  • Duke

    Not hesitating is the best thing. just go approach her, you might never know what her type is. the supermodel at the corner might like chubby guys, and the blonde at the bar might be so much into hipsters that she’ll twirl your ironic stashe all day long. just try and you’ll be surprised at how many awesome women you will get to talk to when you stop being afraid of being rejected

  • Laura

    Number 4 is true, guys.
    Do you know how I pick and choose the guy that hit me on a bar? I observe them interact with my friends, especially with the girls that are a bit…erm, homelier looking (they’re wonderful, don’t get me wrong, they just don’t get prettied up as much as the rest of us because they have other priorities). If the guy totally ignores my friends or he’s rude to them, that’s a huge red flag and a big no no. He gets the boot the moment he acts like that.
    A guy who is also natural around my friends, but flirty just with me, definitely has a competitive advantage over the others.

  • Delly

    Awesome tips!
    I have one tip of my own: just go and talk to women. We don’t bite too hard, I promise. Stop being so afraid of rejection, it’s crippling. I’ve had so many guys who I approached myself only to have them tell they wanted to get to me first, but thought I was out of their league!

    Just be yourself, go out there, have fun, meet new people! Be natural around women, and we’ll reward you by showing you not every one of us is a bitch looking for free drinks xD