Master The Art of Flirting: The Ultimate Guide


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Flirting is the seductive dance between giving into your desires and leaving her wanting more. If you wish to success with women, you need to master this art!

Luckily, in this guide, we reveal 8 secrets and techniques to bring your flirting skills to a whole new level!

Tip #1 – Look Your Best & Groom Yourself

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Flirting is all about attracting the other one you’re interested in. No matter whether this is your first encounter with the person, or you’re trying to keep your relationship spicy, you need to look your best!

Your appearance is the most crucial thing that attracts another individual, and should be your top priority.

Keep in mind: When a person is well-groomed, it shows that they care about their look and take pride in how they present themselves. Any man who is not well-kept gives off the impression that they’re lazy and don’t value themselves.

Tip #2 – Maintain High Confidence in Yourself

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Confidence is a very attractive quality not only to men but especially to ladies. A confident man makes a woman feel safe and secure! A person who is not confident but timid and unsure is not attractive to anyone.

The act of flirting requires you just to be yourself and throw caution to the wind.

Please note: If you’re not comfortable being forward and playful, then you need to start working on your self-esteem ASAP! Carry yourself well, do not be afraid to make the first move and don’t be shy. If you have low self-esteem, fake it until you finally gain your natural confidence!

Tip #3 – Use The Right Body Language to Attract Mates

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When it comes to flirting, it may not be what you say, but what you don’t say that attracts the other person. We pick up on other people hitting on us through our body language, a tone of voice and what we say.

What we say makes up only 7 percent of the equation, while body language makes up a whopping 55%! To communicate your interest in her, try sending signals by:

  • Raising your eyebrow at her.
  • Accidentally bump into her on your way to the bathroom or at the bar.
  • Touch her arm, back, shoulder or knee – in a way that’s not going to creep her out.
  • Stay open (i.e. don’t cross your arms or legs).
  • Move in close to listen to the conversation.
  • Give her a smile.
  • Loosen your tie.

Pay attention: Mirroring each other’s body language can also be a major turn-on. People are generally attracted to others that mimic their moves. It helps two strangers bond and sympathize with each other, but also indicates that you have a mutual interest in each other.

Tip #4 – Communicate in a Way to Create Sexual Tension

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Flirting is designed to do one thing – create sexual tension between you and your partner. We all want what we can’t have; what’s just out of our reach. When you give the other person a taste of what they could have but then take it away, you create an attraction that is difficult to ignore!

Pull your partner in, and then push them away; ignite the tension and then stop. Eye contact is a great way to build up sexual desires. Our eyes have an incredible way of communicating erotic desire through just one simple gaze.

This can get things going, but you need to avoid holding it for too long. Otherwise, it just gets creepy!

Keep in mind: Antagonistic and playful flirting can also build sexual tension by creating a power struggle between you and your partner. Creating this type of attraction is crucial, but you also need to know when to give in and release the tension. Otherwise, you’ll wind up spending the night alone!

Tip #5 – Use The Power of Light Touches

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Flirting is so much more than just an exchange of words or body language; you need to incorporate light touching into the mix! Physical contact can send shivers down her spine and make her weak in knees.

While touching should be a part of flirting, you need to make sure that there’s a certain level of intimacy and comfort between the two of your first!

When you reach that comfortable point, be subtle and gentle with it:

  • Her back and hips are charged areas. Keep your hand on the small of her back while the two of you walk.
  • A gentle, warm breath on the back of her neck can give her goose bumps.
  • Whisper something sweet, like “you smell nice” to ramp up the sexual tension.

Please note: Again, don’t forget to maintain the push-pull dynamic we talked about earlier. You want to build up a little desire and then take it away.

Tip #6 – Smile & Maintain Eye Contact

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Smiling and making eye contact are the basics of flirting. A smile shows you’re interested. Your eyes show your desire and are incredibly communicative.

The right look can make the other person feel like being the only one in the room.

Of course, there’s a difference between being flirty and being downright creepy. If the person of interest catches you staring, lock eyes with them for a moment, smile and then look away.

Keep in mind: Staring too long and too intently may make you come off as a creep. Even after the initial contact has been achieved, smiling and deep looks into others eyes are crucial!

Tip #7 – End The Conversation with a Compliment Before She Does

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When the talking comes to an end, you have to leave a good impression. Complimenting her will leave her feeling good about you and have her thinking about you too.

It’s also an excellent way to make a smooth exit!

Tell her that it was nice talking to her and wish her luck on something that the two of you talked about. Tell her to have a good night!

Keep in mind: Make sure that you compliment her and end the conversation before she does. When you do this first, you take charge and stop the interaction the way you want to.

Tip #8 – You Need a Lot of Practice

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To master the art of flirting, you need to practice – a lot. Make it a point to get out and start gaining experience with women.

Pay attention: Sure, you may not always succeed, but you’ll learn what works and what doesn’t – first-hand!

Hey folks! My pen name is James Buzinko (a.k.a. Stallion) and I want to make this THE GREATEST place for every guy to master the arts of love, dating and attraction! I am young, free and my motto is "Carpe Diem".
  • Riley

    I know this may seem a bit weird but I find it cute when the guy approaches me and he’s incredibly shy that he can barely put two sentences together. Off course, this doesn’t mean that he has to be a dimwit, but I kinda like it is he’s a bit shy.

    • James Buzinko

      Sure, some ladies like shy guys to some level. However, not all are like this…

  • Robert

    You hit the nail in the head with your keep on practicing advice! A few years ago I always felt awkward whenever I had to approach a girl because I kept on thinking what would happen if she said no. This is the worst thing you could do as anticipating your failure will bring it even closer. Just play it cool and don’t be afraid of rejections!

    • James Buzinko

      Thanks for your respond Robert. It is great you payed attention and your time to write comment on this article.

  • Camila

    I love it when a guy softly whispers in my ear, it’s very erotic as long as he’s not a douchebag, using very offensive lines. Being genuine, down to earth, is the first thing I look for in a man, I don’t want to waste my time with someone whose only goal is to get in bed with me.

    • James Buzinko

      Thank you Camila for sharing your preferences with us. Sure, this can be a nice turn on for women.

  • Jose

    I don’t care how cliché some may think this is, but accidentally bumping into someone you fancy and starting your conversation from there has ALWAYS worked for me. To avoid any unwanted accidents, make sure she doesn’t have a drink that she could spill because you could get slapped sooo easily.

    • James Buzinko

      Sure, as long as you keep things natural then you may face highest success ratio.

  • Zachary

    Thanks for sharing this, James! I just watched the Top 10 flirting tips video and it helped me see things from their point of view – also, the chick is hot as hell! However, I think flirting comes natural for girls which works in their advantage but sometimes they give mixed signals to a lot of guys.

    • James Buzinko

      That is true. Some ladies always send mixed signals and then they wonder why so many men are hitting on them.

  • Khloe

    I know that having a scruffy beard is a hot trend now but for me this has zero appeal. I don’t expect a guy to be fresh shaved every single day, I actually like a bit of facial hair, but not to as much that I get a rash every time I kiss him.

    • James Buzinko

      Sure, a lot of facial hair is not practical for kissing and making love.

  • Charles

    I’m 16 and finding a date is hell! A lot of girls in my town are very uptight and would only date older guys because they have a car and a secure job to buy them lots of stuff. This is very shallow and I know among them is a decent girl that would date me but I haven’t had any luck yet.

    • James Buzinko

      Man, as you will grow older there would be even more shallow girls you will meet. The only advice I can get you is to try and still look for that decent girl but be prepared to meet a lot of other ladies as well.

  • Thomas

    All my past girlfriends said that they loved the fact that I approached them slightly different. If I see a girl I like, I try to get closer to her and start the conversation with a joke, but not a sex one. If they laugh, I introduce myself and start chatting and if not, I don’t waste anymore of my time because it’s clearly that she’s not my type, I like my girlfriend to be funny and laidback.

    • James Buzinko

      Hey Thomas this is really great tactics. I bet you are finding a lot of women that smile a lot and that is often the most important thing!

  • Sophie

    Guys, flirting shouldn’t be rocket science. We tend to overcomplicate things and this is what makes us so unsure. If you see someone you like, approach her and if she reacts ok, then start your conversation, otherwise just go to the next girl in row, there’s plenty of fish in the sea.

    • James Buzinko

      Hey that is true. Just go for another try with different chick if you are unsuccessful the first time. No point in thinking about the refusal…

  • Claire

    I absolutely hate it when a guy stares at me for minutes and has that psycho look; if you want to ask me out, just come to my table, there’s no need to have a staring contest. Once a guy approached me in the park and asked me out for a date; after I said yes he jumped in his car and asked me to wait 5 minutes until he comes back. When he returned he surprised me with a huge peonies bouquet – he overheard me taking about them with my colleagues. Just be yourself and avoid trying too much.

    • James Buzinko

      That is really extreme behavior. I bet he lost some chances with you by this move.