Low Self Esteem? 7 Tips That Will Help You


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Having low self-esteem can have a debilitating effect on everything. If you spend a significant part of your time thinking negatively about yourself, life can quickly become unbearable.

Bad thoughts can even get you into a vicious cycle that you will struggle to break free from!

Trust me that every part of your life can quickly change including the way you dress, even your ability to advance in your career because of the personal image you have created.

Luckily, there are 7 easy steps you can take to improve your mindset and become a positive and confident person!

Tip #7 – Congratulate Yourself Often & Stop Self-Criticizing

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Let’s take these 2 powerful tools one at a time. Now, in the midst of having little self-esteem, it can be almost nature to criticize everything you do.

It often becomes a habit so ingrained in your psyche that you end up criticizing every aspect of your existence, from the way you look, to the way you behave!

It is quite easy to slip into blaming yourself for every little thing. Therefore, to raise your self-esteem issues you need to apply positive thinking. If you think negatively, you often act so.

Where your mind goes, your body follows!

If you have a poor self-image, it nearly always also manifests in the way you talk, walk and interact with people. You have to retrain your brain and the way it thinks.

Keep in mind: You need to congratulate yourself as well. Begin with something small that you’ve done well, and congratulate yourself. Keep doing it, make it a habit, and see how slowly you start to get better!

Tip #6 – Avoid “All-or-Nothing” Attitude to Problem Solving

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One of the traps that you can fall into with low self-esteem is making everything into an all-or-nothing situation. Naturally, if you think like this, then most things become a problem!

This attitude will keep you digging a deeper and deeper hole for yourself. Thanks to your negative thinking you will not be able to come out on top anyway.

Pay attention: Can you see the downward spiral here? Learn to approach things in a balanced way. Just because you might make a small error, doesn’t render your entire efforts worthless!

Tip #5 – Set Realistic Expectations

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By this, you could also read ‘don’t set yourself up for a failure’! An easy illustration would be to imagine an employee starting work at a company in an entry-level position and declaring that they are going to be CEO in one year.

It’s not going to happen is it? Probably no! And when it doesn’t you’re going to feel like a failure.

Pay attention: You need to keep the grand dreams and ambitions, but build in smaller, achievable goals along the way. These, when completed, get you a little further along the road to achieving your dreams!

Tip #4 – Look for Constructive Feedback

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To improve and become the strongest version of yourself, it is sometimes wise for you to listen and take on board input from others.

Pay attention: Train your mindset not to view every bit of feedback and criticism as the worst thing that could ever happen. Just listen carefully, be attentive and see if there’s anything that can help you.

Tip #3 – Walk & Sit Straight

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Maybe you don’t have such great feeling, and you can’t turn off your inner critic. What should you do? Fake it! That’s right, at your desk, sit up straight.

When you’re out walking, do it with your head held high and chest out! You will be surprised by the instant boost of confidence it will give you.

Be aware: Acting like a confident, secure person will translate into your mind and will ultimately make you feel that way – for real! But again, you have to make it a habit.

Tip #2 – Start Working Out & Eat Properly

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Doing exercises is one of the easiest things you can do to free your brain from the shackles of low self-esteem. Exercising releases endorphins – the very own “feel good” chemicals. These flood through your system and will quite simply obliterate your bad mood almost instantly!

Don’t have a gym membership?

Sorry, but you’ll have to throw that excuse away because all you need to do is get outside and go for a run! There’s no need to try and set any Olympic records, just remember why you’re doing it and get out there as soon as possible.

Pay attention: You need to combine working out with proper food. Just eat clean and reap the rewards. Cut out any processed foods and sugar from your diet and gain the reward of a clear, fresh mind. Drink plenty of water and bring more things like fish, vegetables, and whole grains into your daily meals.

Tip #1 – Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

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Each of us is on our journey. To always compare yourselves to other people is a huge waste of your energy that could be better spent focusing on your self-improvement.

Focus on what you can do better. What do you want to achieve, where do you wish to go in life? These are the important things, and more importantly, the things we have control over.

Set goals, achieve them, and learn to view yourself in a positive light. These are some of the keys to a fulfilling existence!


Hey folks! I am James (a.k.a. Stallion) and I want to make this THE GREATEST place for every guy to master the arts of love, dating and attraction! I am young, free and my motto is "Carpe Diem".


  1. I Wish everyone in the world could read this list. Its so sad how many people out there don’t love themselves. I have a best friend and she’s the nicest girl in the world. She’s going to be 29 this year and still has never been kissed. She is very shy and tends to just keep to herself and 2 cats. I tell her all the time she needs to love herself more and stop thinking that she has to be a size 2 to be confident. I am going to email her this list. Its so important to have good self esteem, it makes you feel better about yourself & you treat others better.

    • That’s terrible, I can’t imagine that. I mean, I can imagine being self concious, but isn’t there a point in everyone’s mind where they just say enough is enough and accept what they’ve gotten in life, and let the world take them as they are? I know I’m not the most attractive guy in the world, but I’m so over letting that hold me back. I’ve got some good in me, and I’m not going to let it go to waste.

  2. Walking & sitting with proper posture is so important.Not only will you feel better, but others will perceive that as confidence. We all know that confidence is so attractive. I find that doing yoga really helps me with my posture.

  3. taking care of your appearances does led to a higher self esteem. I know it sounds superficial, but right now my self esteem is down and its because of my recent weight gain. I used to the chick that would walk everywhere and no matter what I never allowed myself to weigh more then 115lbs – I am 5’1 so thats a healthy weight. Well I moved to the countryside and since have gained over 30 pounds in under 3 years. I don’t feel as happy as I used too. So I agree that exercise and diet are very important. I am taking control though, I just ordered an elliptical so I can start working out and re-gain my self esteem.

  4. Positive thinking! This is one of the things that I have been working on this year. I have always been the type of person to see the cup-half empty. I always expect the worst. But I have convinced myself that thinking negative isn’t going to change the outcome of certain things and that I only have control over my actions. I started thinking positive and now I feel so much better. My outlook on life is also improving.

  5. What an amazing list! I think every teenager should read this! As a guidance counselor at a high school, I see so many teenagers that have very low self esteem. They compare themselves to celebrities. They often have body issues. Its very sad, and I often wonder if their parents even pay them attention. Parents have no idea how important it is to tell your kids that they are awesome and they love them. The best tip on this list is to not compare yourself to others! You are amazing the way you are!

    • As a teen, I never understood why my peers compare themselves with celebs. My self esteem is poor because I compare myself with others, comparing to celebs just seem stupid since their whole person is made for publicity, it’s all artificial.

  6. Hey man, thanks for the list! I don’t have self confidence issues anymore, but my little brother is going trough that awkward teenager phase that destroys the weak and builds them into men via crippling insecurities – so yeah, Ill have to link this to him because to me he doesn’t listen. Thanks!

  7. Number 6 won’t help any unless you fix all underlying issues before…learned this the hard way. I lost over 50 lbs, put on muscle, changed y whole look. Men were jelly, girls were fawning over me, but me? I was still hating myself. Only when I fixed all psychological issues I had, then I began to feel confident.

    So yeah guys, looking better is not a magic wand, but it does help a little

    • Personally, I found working out helped both my body and my mind. I guess my physique was giving me more problems than I realized, but I feel a lot better knowing that I look as good as possible, whereas before I kept being shy about my weight, mostly because I knew that I just wasn’t being the best version of me possible.

  8. Self esteem is super important, you can’t really go trough life without having it, else you’ll always be miserable. That’s a great list, it really helped me a lot, thanks Stallion!

  9. great list, man! i hate to see so many good guys get crippled by their insecurities..they could easily get women if they had more confidence! i hope this list helps everyone that needs it 😀

  10. All of my guy friends could get so many women if only they tried to at least appear confident…us women want something that is secure in themselves, if nothing else! Ill send them this list, because all of my advice so far never worked.

  11. thanks for the list stallion…i am 16 and really trying to not be awkward and shit, but i have low self confidence…i thinks this list will help me and maybe i will get confident as i get older, too.

  12. I definitely know at least one man who could really use to read this article… excellent advice, though I’m sure it seems like common sense to some, it’s still news to many!

  13. Low self esteem is crippling, man…and it doesn’t just affect your relationships, it also affects your success, your hobbies, your everything. I wonder back to when I was a teen and hated myself and I remember all of the missed opportunities….hurts to remember myself like that.

  14. Looking for constructive feedback is key. I mean, if you’re feeling shitty about yourself, you shouldn’t trust yourself with your opinions – just ask an objective party to help you see yourself for who you are.
    My friends helped me get back on my feet, so having someone give you constructive crit and feedback is super important! They told me what was going well, what wasn’t, and I slowly changed to be who I am today – and I’m better for it!

  15. I
    know this may sound dumb but for me cartoons always did the trick. Whenever I feel
    all my plans go South, I open YouTube and search for old Disney cartoons. Now
    I’m kind of watching on repeat The Looney Tunes Show and they always bring a
    smile on my face and keep me happy and upbeat. Maybe because I feel like a kid
    whenever I watch them, don’t know but I’m glad that in my case the solution is
    that simple.

  16. I have one word for you: TED! Never in my life have I imagined that I can get so much confidence and courage to follow my dreams by watching a simple video. Now I’m in the process of moving out from my parents’ home and trying to figure life on my own but it’s consuming and at times I don’t think I can make it. One friend introduced me to TED talks and I tend to incorporate them in my daily “brain training”.

  17. I always complained about how out-of-shape I was but I never did anything. One day I bumped into an old friend of mine and last I saw her she was way overweight but now she lost almost half her weight and started training for a fitness competition. She used to be so shy and had zero self esteem and now she was a different person. She encouraged me to start working out and even if I haven’t achieved my weight goal I feel super happy because I know I will soon.

  18. Don’t second guess yourself even before beginning something. Try new things, accept failure and don’t focus on all the times it didn’t work out. Bad experiments and choices should be in the past as you have to focus on the direction you have to take now, not on the past failures. If
    you don’t do anything today, tomorrow you will have nothing!

    • That is great tip! Always take opportunities that are coming your way. If you will fail, there is nothing bad about it as you will be richer on experience you can use later in your life!

  19. Facebook is great for networking but it can be such a downer sometimes. When you see your friends happy, travelling around the world and you can barely pay your rent it doesn’t do wonders for your self esteem. Avoid checking Facebook when you are bored and especially when you feel unsatisfied with some aspects of your life because you will most likely feel even worse. Try to remember that everyone has his problems and if someone smiles in a
    picture it doesn’t mean they feel better than you.