You’d be hard pressed to find a man in this world who doesn’t like receiving oral sex.
Regardless of whether you are inexperienced or you simply want to change up your technique, being able to cast your man into the throws of pleasure with just one simple act can be a powerful source of pride and empowerment.
If you are looking to turn up the intensity in the bedroom, oral sex is easily one of the most effective ways to get him in the zone.
Despite the name, giving a blowjob shouldn’t feel like a job!
It should be something that you enjoy.
Sex is about having a positive bonding experience with your partner. It should be fun, not feel like a chore.
A surprisingly large number of women refuse to give fellatio. Some say they don’t enjoy it, while others are insecure about their technique.
Before you write it off completely, try following these simple steps. Putting in a few minutes of effort can have a drastic effect on both your partners pleasure as well as your own.
Step 1: Communicate
Although it seems simple, this is the most important part of the entire process. We can give you every fellatio tip in the world, but nobody is going to know your man’s body like he does.
Before you go to bed, ask him lightheartedly what he likes and what he doesn’t.
Men are often happy to share, and you’ll still be able to surprise him when you bust out his favorite move a few days later.
This is also a good time to address your own feelings.
If you are inexperienced or insecure, let him know how you feel so he can encourage and support you through the process. Because sexuality is viewed as such a taboo topic, many people tend to keep their thoughts and desires bottled up.
Keep in mind: In many circumstances, this can make small problems feel much larger than they are. So if you have any discomfort regarding oral sex, a quick comforting chat can really help to put your mind at ease.
Step 2: Take Charge
When things are heating up, it’s time to let him know who is in charge. You want him to know that his pleasure is in your hands.
Begin the blowjob with authority!
Position him where you want and make sure you find a comfortable way to sit. Acting with initiative demonstrates that you’re pleasuring him because you enjoy doing it.
For a man, knowing that a woman is enthusiastic about pleasing you is a major turn on.
There is no need to be shy and quiet, tell him bluntly that you need his cock in your mouth, and watch him squirm.
The thrill of this is that you have full control over his orgasm.
Remember: While he may try to control it, ultimately it’s you that decides when he gets to come. His only option is to sit back and wait for it to happen.
Step 3: Tease Him
There is no need to immediately take all of him. Start things off slow, tease a bit and let the tension build. As you work your way down his body, kissing his neck and slowly removing his clothes, pay attention to his body language.
As you get closer to the mark, you’ll start to feel him tense up or squirm around a bit.
You want him to practically beg for it.
Once you get his pants off, start by kissing his shaft and balls. Move slowly towards the tip of his penis and give it a quick flick with your tongue. Make sure he thinks that you’re on the verge of taking him, but then back off.
Keep in mind: A few minutes of teasing will drive him wild, and make the experience much more intense and enjoyable for him once you take the plunge.
Step 4: Give Audible Cues & Maintain Eye Contact
Surprisingly, a survey among a lot of men has shown that the best thing a woman can do during a blowjob is maintaining eye contact. So the next time you are blowing him off, give him some deep looks into his eyes.
Another thing men love is audible cues. As you start to slowly lower your mouth over his shaft, be sure to let out a little moan.
Remember: Verbal signals tell him that you are enjoying it, and help him relax. There is no need to go over the top, but a few small audible confirmations can be very assuring and incredibly erotic.
Step 5: Use Your Hands
While women have most of their sexual nerve endings centered around a few different points, men have nerve endings more evenly spread throughout the penis.
Although the head of the penis is very sensitive, you shouldn’t focus all of your energy here!
The base of the penis is another one of his sensitive areas. Grip the base of his shaft firmly with your hand and move opposite your mouth to meet in the middle.
The penis is very tough, don’t be afraid to use pressure. To smooth out the process, use some of your spit or a flavored lube to keep his entire shaft slick.
Keep in mind: This technique is especially useful for a larger penis, which you may find to be a little more than a mouthful. Regardless of his dick size, paying attention to the entire shaft is essential to maximizing the pleasure he receives.
Step 6: Listen to His Feedback
As you gradually increase the intensity of your blowjob, pay attention so you know when he is about to cum. While some men will tell you verbally, many are quite quiet.
For these scenarios, you can pay attention to his breathing to find out where he is at.
If he likes what you are doing to him, he’ll probably moan a bit. When his hips start to move up into you, you know he’s getting close.
Pay attention: At this point, pay careful attention to his tension. Rest a hand on his thigh, when you feel the muscles start to clench up you know he’s about to have an orgasm.
Step 7: Dispose of the Evidence
If you want to swallow, pull your head back a bit and aggressively suck his tip. You can use your hand to compensate for the reduced depth. This will make some space in your mouth for his seed, and prevent you from choking.
If you’d prefer not to have him cum in your mouth, you can wait until he’s just on the verge and finish him off with a handjob. He should still be slick from your saliva, so this should still be very enjoyable for him.
Since you’re going to be moving your hand much more quickly, don’t use as much pressure as you were before. Loosen your grip a bit and let your hand quickly slide up and down his shaft while he lets loose.
Keep in mind: Once he’s shot his load, you can give him one last deep oral stroke to help him make the most of the final few moments of his orgasm.
Remember, this is just a guideline. Sex is a private bond between yourself and your partner. As you learn more about their desires, you can always mix it up to find something unique that the both of you especially enjoy.
7 Advanced Tips for Expert Techniques
If you’re experienced, you might want to find a unique little twist to surprise your man. While these tricks aren’t for everyone, we’ve compiled some of the spiciest tricks guaranteed to make him catch his breath.
#1. Get Wet
Lube isn’t just for penetrative sex, a silky gliding action can add a whole new dimension to fellatio. Many lubes are available in different flavors, providing you with a little extra incentive to keep things moving forward.
Pay attention: You can choose from flavors such as strawberry, vanilla, kiwi, cherry, mint, and cinnamon.
#2. Tease the Teeth
This might sound like a horrible prank, but a tiny bit of tooth action can really help perk up the nerves. The goal is not to chomp down, just give a gentle nibble on the tip.
Keep in mind: Some guys are very sensitive about teeth, so you might want to clear this with him first.
#3. Cool Down
Before you put him in your mouth, suck on an ice cube for a bit or drink a frosty beverage. The unexpected temperature change is sure to provide a little jolt of unexpected pleasure.
Pay attention: If you will do this without him knowing, trust me he will love it!
#4. The Magic 8-Ball
If you find that you’re getting bored of bobbing your head up and down for minutes at a time, why not change up your rhythm a bit?
- Give him 8 quick, shallow strokes just on the tip of his shaft.
- Then follow it up with one slow, long deep stroke.
- Rinse and repeat.
Pay attention: The stimulation on the tip of his penis is enough to keep things flowing for him, but the anticipation of the deep stroke is what is really going to set him over the edge.
#5. Put Your Tongue to Use
Some guys can take a while to cum from a blowjob, and there is lots of opportunity for your jaw to get sore during the process.
How can you keep your man going while giving a break to your achy jaw muscles?
Easy, put your tongue to work.
Pay attention: Raise up to the tip of his penis and swirl your tongue all around his head. This might seem like a pretty basic move, but the sensation is unique and is sure to catch him off guard.
#6. Go Deep Without Gagging
A lot of men love to have deep, aggressive strokes. What they don’t realize is that this can be very uncomfortable for your poor throat.
Fortunately, there is a way you can give him what he wants while keeping your gag reflex intact. Place the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth, and proceed like normal.
Pay attention: To him, it will feel like you are going as deep as possible, but you’ll be protected from any discomfort.
#7. A View to Remember
There is no sense in hiding yourself away under the covers. Men are very visual creatures, and they love a good show.
While you’re pleasuring him, touch yourself a bit.
Keep in mind: Not only will this help you get into the mood, but he’ll love seeing you enjoy pleasing him.
Read more tips about giving the perfect blow job:
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- 19 Blow Job Tips That Are Actually Amazing
Receiving fellatio can strongly improve the intensity and focus of your man’s sexual desire, so a quick blowjob to kick off the night can help you unleash his animalistic nature. Not only is it a physical display of your affection for him, but the knowledge that you are able to provide such a wonderful source of joy to somebody you care for is very empowering.