If you want to be a perfect dominatrix you need to emanate absolute dominance and provide your clients and submissives with excellent BDSM experience. Therefore, you need to have a clear understanding of the basics and extras this discipline requires.

Luckily for you, there are 8 tips you need to apply ASAP to gain necessary character traits of a perfect dominatrix to provide your clients with the session of their dreams.

Confidence Is Everything

Trait #1

If you want to choose a profession of a dominatrix you need to have a lot of confidence and high self-esteem. Now only that, you will need to express it during sessions with your clients.

Your partner or client will always be looking to you for commands. Therefore, you will need to dominate and show him or her that you are comfortable with being in control.

Confidence is not only a necessary part of being a dominatrix, but it can also be extra sexy.

She Always Plans Her Steps Ahead

Trait #2

The dominatrix profession will require a small amount of acting. Therefore, you will want to construct a solid script and plan that you will be able to follow during your session! Thanks to these, you will know what to say and do if your partner will or will not obey your commands.

A preparation of “a script” will improve your client’s experience. You should look at it as a part of a movie – you will want to make sure that you know what is coming next so that you are prepared for any situation!

She Is Flexible

Trait #3

The needs of your clients are of the utmost importance as they will be your primary source of income. Considering that BDSM (Bondage, Dominance, Sadism, and Masochism) is a unique area of sexual appeal, you can expect them to have unusual requests.

Therefore, you will want to be highly flexible to ensure that you are effectively able to cater to their needs. The more you can pleasure your clients, the more likely they will return to you and refer you to their friends.

The more clients you have, the more money you make, therefore being flexible provides you with a win-win situation.

She Knows How to Make Him Obey

Trait #4

As previously mentioned, being a dominatrix means that you need to be the controlling party in your relationship to your customer. Alongside having high confidence and a plan, you must feel comfortable with giving commands and making your partner obey.

There are various methods that you can use to make sure that your client follows your commands, including flogging and whipping. The punishment in dominant-submissive relationship translates to pleasure.

Therefore to make him understand your commands, you must make him obey.

Has No Problems with Spanking

Trait #5

Another common practice that you will need to learn and do is spanking your client. Much like flogging or whipping, spanking is another sexy way that you can use to make your submissive subject to do whatever you say!

You can use it as a reward if he or she listens to you and complete the tasks you have assigned them.

If you are new to being a dominatrix, spanking him may be awkward at first but it will soon become your second nature.

Maintains Dominance at All Costs

Trait #6

It is important to remember that often, your client will try to challenge you in every way possible until he or she understands that you are in control. Therefore, you need to maintain a dominant position that will keep the pleasure and fantasy alive.

The whole point is to be able to maintain control, regardless of whether he or she wants to challenge you or not. Practice particular commands and actions that will make your partner listen and understand that you are the master holding the leash.

Keeps Her Arousal Under Control

Trait #7

One of the most important things to learn as a dominatrix is the following rule: Tease with zero physical acts of sex.

You will want to touch your client and entice him or her to want to have intercourse with you, but you are never to give them your entire body.

Teasing is an excellent way to keep the sexual fantasy of your clientele alive and make submissives aroused and wanting more.

If you learn to effectively tease your clients, they will continue to return to you for their sessions.

She Is Always Professional

Trait #8

Although you will be disciplining men and treating them like they are insignificant, you cannot let these emotions run rampant. It is your professional duty to ensure that you can continue to provide your customers with a safe and yet exciting environment.

Many professional dominatrixes harbor negative feelings towards men, and if you are one of these, it is imperative that you keep your opinions to yourself while in the workplace.

Otherwise, you will lose your clientele!

These are eight tips you need to follow in case you want to build all the necessary character traits of a perfect dominatrix. Even if you are just delving into the industry, there are many components to this incredibly exciting profession for you to learn.

Extra Tips

From Real Dominatrices

“ALWAYS BE IN CONTROL.  Really in control. 

“Examples:”

  • “If a session is supposed to be one hour, when there are 5 minutes left, start figuring out how you can stop investing YOUR time in the matter when you’ve gone about 1 minute over.”
  • “If a submissive arrives 10 minutes late, unless it’s their first time, look at them and say “That’s an interesting way to waste your money.  You have 50 minutes left.  Best get started.”
  • “If something falls from a table as you’re picking up something else (say, the ropes brush against a crop, and it hits the ground) – if the sub’s mobile, ignore the fallen thing for a few seconds as you go about your business, then look over to the sub and say, with a bit of an expectant twinge, “pick that up and put it over by the things that need to be cleaned”.  If they’re not mobile, rather than bending over, kick the item lightly across the room toward the cleaning area.”
  • “(just an idea; not mandatory) If a sub apologizes, indicates toward the bathroom, and says “I have to pee”, get a bowl and make them pee right in front of you instead of letting them leave the scene.”