You would be pretty hard-pressed to find anybody in the world who wouldn’t love a little oral sex every once in a while. That is why many guys and girls want to try the traditional 69 position in the early stages of their sex life.
Trust me that it can be a lot of fun in the beginning.
However, after a while, you’re just kind of pounding away and things turn into a routine. Luckily, thanks to our guide and especially our tips and tricks section available in the article below, you will be able to give her the best 69 she will ever experience.
So let’s get down to the business.
BASIC GUIDE TO THE 69
GETTING INTO THE CORRECT POSITION
Before you start to eat her out, you need to get into the basic 69 position. This can be done pretty easily and you won’t need any extra strength or stamina.
Just follow these basic directions:
- One partner (usually a guy) needs to lay down on his back with his legs slightly bent in his knees.
- He can grab a pillow and place it under his head to support his neck.
- The other partner (usually a girl) needs to straddle him so that his head is between her legs closest to her pussy.
- Then, she needs to lean forward and place her head comfortably between his legs, facing his penis.
- The upper partner needs to stay on her elbows and knees and should not lay completely down, belly on the belly.
- The bottom partner has two free hands, while the upper partner will have one hand free to play with.
I prefer when I am laying down on my back and my partner is staying on all fours as this way, I am not sweating too much and it is still comfortable for both of us.
I have experience with more advanced variations of the 69 position as well so don’t forget to check out the paragraphs below.
Once you are in the correct position, you can apply the following techniques.
TECHNIQUES TO EAT HER PUSSY IN 69
In the case of 69, she often starts to blow you right away. If this is the case, there is no place for any teasing and you can start munching on her pussy. Once you are in the correct position, you can start to eat her out.
The most effective technique is called the “Clit Flicker & Sucker“. It is very simple to execute and pays direct attention to her clit:
- You need to expose her clitoris by pulling its hood away with one of your thumbs.
- Once exposed, put your lips and mouth all over it. Get ready that your nose will get buried in her vaginal opening and that you may need to hold your breath from time to time.
- Place your tongue on her clitoris and start flicking it slowly and gently.
- Move your tongue up & down and increase your speed gradually.
- Add side-to-side and circular motions into the mix.
- As she gets closer to climax, suck on her clit a little bit and escalate your vacuum and suction power until she reaches a very intense orgasm.
Some women can’t handle direct stimulation and sucking of the clit. Therefore, change this technique according to her preferences.
Another technique that you can use during 69 is the “Lips Check Up“:
- Make your fingers wet (use your saliva or her pussy juice)
- Spread her labia from each other with your hands
- Begin with kissing her outer labia (both right and left)
- With a flat tongue, lick her outer labia from bottom-up and return with the tip of your tongue in the space between her inner and outer labia (both right and left)
- You can continue by sucking gently on each of her inner lips
Pay attention to each of her labia as there is nothing worse when some part of her vulva gets absolutely no attention at all.
Not only that you can also try some “Tongue Penetration“:
- Start by sticking out your tongue and make it as firm as possible.
- Then, you can penetrate her vaginal opening with your tongue and mimic “in and out” movements you normally do with your penis when having sex.
- This will leave her clit without attention for a while so you can build anticipation in her.
Just keep in mind that during tongue penetration, your nose will get very close to her anus.
Here are my personal remarks and tips on eating her pussy in 69:
- Don’t forget that if you are on the bottom, you have two free hands.
- Firmly grab her ass with your hands, a lot of girls love rough handling of their ass cheeks.
- If your neck or mouth gets sore, try some fingering as well.
- Keep in mind that her pussy juices will get on your nose.
- Also, if you lick her vaginal opening or apply a tongue penetration your nose will get dangerously close to her anus.
- Let her know that she is doing a good job by moaning or by adding soft dirty talk from time to time.
There are also several other ways to eat her pussy. Most of these are not suitable for a 69 position but if you love going down on her, then these can improve your skill.
Just keep in mind that going down on her during 69 is going to be a slightly different experience.
Actually, achieving orgasm during 69 may be a problem as if you are concentrating on giving then you are not focusing on the pleasure you receive and vice versa. If you are focusing on the pleasure you receive you may drift off and stop giving.
Trust me that this will make the 69 not that great in the eyes of your partner.
ALTERNATIVE POSITIONS FOR 69
If you don’t like the traditional 69 (girl on top) position for any reason, then try this variation that is called the Speaker. As you can see in the image above, this is a man on top position.
All you have to do is to follow these steps:
- A girl needs to lay on her back and place a pillow under her neck.
- Her legs need to be bent in knees and slightly stretched apart.
- A guy needs to lay on her female partner (her head between his legs) while holding his weight by his knees.
- Then, he needs to softly grab her thighs and open her legs to get his head between her legs.
- She can use her free hands to grab his buttcheeks or to play with his balls or anus.
- Bon appetite!
This position is perfect if you want to show some dominance as a man. Also, it is perfect if your sex partner is much taller than you.
The best part? Your girl will have both her hands free so she can play with your balls or even anus if you are into butt play.
ON YOUR SIDES (SHINING)
If you are looking for a variation of 69 that is the most comfortable then you should try the Shining position. To be honest, this is my favorite variation of the 69 position.
All you need to do is to follow these steps:
- Both man and woman need to lay on their sides facing each other´s genitalia.
- A woman can get a pillow under her shoulder to lift her upper torso a little bit.
- She can leave the bottom hand outstretched along his bottom leg.
- Ideally, she will have her legs half bent and stretched apart.
- A guy needs to get his head between her legs and his face as close to her pussy as possible.
- He can lock her upper leg under his armpit to comfortably spread her legs.
- Also, he needs to spread his legs apart to make room for his partner´s head.
- One free hand at both partners allows for the different type of stimulation.
This variation is excellent for those who love their comfort and want to fully focus on giving and receiving pleasure. Both your and your partner will have one hand free to “play” with.
69 ON ALL FOURS (YIN & YANG)
Do you consider the typical versions of 69 too boring? Then try the Yin-Yang position.
Although it may not be as comfortable as variations mentioned before, it allows an excellent access to her pussy and gives a man the dominant position:
- A woman needs to lie on her back.
- She needs to fully raise her legs up and grab her ankles with her hands.
- Then, she needs to drive them apart as much as possible and press them to her body.
- Man needs to get down on his knees (that needs to be driven apart) so that her head is between his legs.
- Then he needs to completely lean forward until his head is right near her pussy.
- His hands need to go over her thighs and hug her back so she will not be able to completely lay on the ground.
- Bon appetit!
This position allows easy access to both his and her genitalia. However, your hands will be out of play. My advice is to place a pillow under her head to make this position more comfortable.
If you and your partner are into butt play, then you can also pay attention to her perineum and anus as this position provides for the perfect access to this area.
STANDING 69 (PISCES)
Are you looking for a variation of 69 that is a little bit more challenging? Then try the Pisces position.
Basically, all you need is a man who has strong arms and at least some endurance as you will need to follow these steps:
- A guy needs to stand in a comfortable position with his legs shoulder-width apart.
- Then he needs to grab and hold his girl heads down, her lower belly resting on his upper chest and her chest on his belly.
- She needs to embrace his neck with her legs and close her shins crosswise.
- A guy needs to hold her weight with his both hands.
- With his mouth, he can eat her out.
- At the same time, she can play with his penis with her mouth.
- Her hands should be free to stimulate his balls or anus.
- Bon appetit!
This position is not very comfortable for a guy nor for a girl. Although it provides some spark for your love life, I can hardly imagine achieving orgasm doing this.
It limits a man to only munching on her pussy as his hands will be holding her weight, while she will have both her hands and her mouth available for your pleasure.
Just keep in mind that you can easily injure yourself or your partner while experimenting with this position. So better be safe than sorry.
STANDING & TWISTED 69 (SNAKE)
If you think that standing 69 is not that of a challenge for you, then try the Snake position. This one is perfect for adventurous couples, strong guys, and flexible girls.
All you have to do is to follow these instructions:
- A guy needs to stand in a comfortable position with his legs shoulder-width apart.
- Then he needs to grab and hold his girl heads down, her ass resting on his upper chest and her back on his belly.
- Her legs can rest behind his back.
- One of his hands should hold her belly while the other should hold her ass to support her weight.
- With his mouth, he can eat and munch on her pussy.
- At the same time, she can turn her head to the side so she can have good access to his penis.
- Then, she needs to hold with one hand onto his leg while with the other she can grab his c*ck and put it into her mouth.
- Bon appetit!
From my personal experience, this position is not very comfortable. If your partner is lightweight and small, it provides for a short-term fun. While it is limiting for man, a girl can show some attention to both your balls and your penis.
However, I use it only seldom when I want to spice things up a little bit.
Just keep in mind that you will need a lot of strength, endurance, and stamina. Also, there is a high risk of injury while experimenting with this position.
EXTRA TIPS FOR THE PERFECT 69
#1. MAINTAIN PROPER HYGIENE
The frequency of oral sex you receive and the level of your personal hygiene go hand in hand. Obviously, if you want to have some “fun time” during any activity that includes oral sex, you need to maintain proper hygiene.
The main goal is to eliminate any foul odors down there.
Just keep everything clean on a regular basis to maintain a nice smell. This way, you should be safe when an unexpected oral sex happens.
Don’t get me wrong.
You don’t have to be obsessive about hygiene of your genitalia.
There are actually people who prefer some scent and it gets them more aroused. Also, there will be times when you just want to jump on each other regardless of how sweaty, dirty, or messy both of you are.
All you need to do is to get rid of any foul odors and you are good to go.
#2. GIVE MORE THAN YOU RECEIVE
Sex is always a “game of power” where one person usually gives while the other one takes. These roles should switch between partners from time to time to maintain a healthy balance.
However, we guys always have a tendency to kind of sit back and enjoy the show.
If you do this during the 69 and won’t focus on pleasuring her as well, then trust me she will not be eager to experiment with it the next time you are having sex. There is one basic rule for you to follow.
As long as she is blowing you, you should be munching on her pussy.
Sure, you can teasingly pause for few seconds but don’t be lazy. The more you receive, the more effort you should put into giving her the experience of a lifetime.
Trust me, giving more than you receive is a great way to build a positive attitude towards the 69 position.
#3. CHANGE YOUR ROLES
From my personal experience, I can tell you that almost each and every 69 action starts with the guy laying on his back and a lady on top of him. This can obviously change in the heat of passion.
Some people (especially those who share similar body types) have no trouble whatsoever “flipping the script” and taking the opposite approach. In general, the person who is on the top usually dominates and dictates the pace and intensity of the 69.
My advice is this:
To make 69 even better, the person who is usually dominant should be laying on his/her back while the usually submissive partner should go on the top to lead.
Trust me that this change of roles will bring a little bit of excitement into the action.
#4. USE PILLOW AS A SUPPORT
Everyone who tried the 69 position will know how easy it is to strain your neck, especially when you are the one on the bottom. This can make the whole experience quite negative.
Luckily, a simple pillow can change the 69 into a very comfortable and pleasurable experience.
Just make sure to place one under the head of either you or your sexual partner (the one who is on the bottom). If you do this, your neck will be supported and you will be able to really get into the action.
#5. USE YOUR FREE HANDS
One of the biggest problems that people face when it comes to 69 (especially those who do not have a lot of experience with oral sex) is that they always forget they have hands.
They just try to do all the work with their mouths.
Again, do not get me wrong, such effort is always appreciated. However, using your hands and fingers to mix things up can change his or her experience from ordinary to incredible.
The next time you are doing 69, you can try these things with your free hands:
- Wander around her body and caress it
- Play with and stimulate her erogenous zones
- Start fingering her
- Start jerking him off
- Play with his or her anus if your partner is into this type of “game”
Just always keep in mind that unless you are paralyzed from the neck down, or experimenting with bondage, you should use your hands to increase his or her experience.
#6. AVOID HEAT BUILDUP
When you experiment with the 69 in the beginnings of your sex life, you both usually end up lying right on top of one another. While it may seem comfortable from the start, after some time there will be a huge build-up of body heat.
This may lead to excessive sweating that may not be pleasant at all.
What is more, if the top partner will lay on the bottom one, the one under will need to go into uncomfortable angles with his or her head that will lead to a sore neck in no time.
Luckily, all this can be avoided if the partner on the top will remain on all fours (or at least a little bit elevated). This will allow for a less heat transfer as well as more comfortable access to partners genitalia.
#7. TAKE YOUR TIME & BE FOCUSED
When you are pleasing each other in 69 position, try enjoying this moment of mutual pleasure and take your time. The worst thing you can do is to be hasty and try to be done as soon as possible.
The only thing worse than never getting any oral sex is having somebody who “goes through the motions” just to get a job done so you can start hammering away at one another.
Believe me when I say that this behavior is going to get noticed and it will ruin the mood if it doesn’t end the whole 69 entirely. If you want this position to be a frequent part of your sex life, stay present, focused and give it always your best shot.
Just enjoy each and every aspect of it and take your time while pleasing each other.
#8. TRY IT ON YOUR SIDE
Though there aren’t too many “variations” of the good old-fashioned 69, it is pretty much “what you see is what you get” deal. However, lying on your side can mix things up just enough that it can get a little bit more interesting.
Obviously, you will lose the use of one of your hands.
However, you can trust me that even with just one hand available it can be a lot of fun. I like it a lot because it is much more comfortable for both of you and anyone can take the leading role.
Again, it is up to you what things you prefer. Therefore, you need to experiment a lot with variations to the basic 69 position.
#9. LET YOUR TONGUE WANDER AROUND
If you are really hitting a groove (and your partner is responding well), then obviously you don’t want to change things up to get them off the track, especially if they’re about to achieve orgasm.
However, don’t be afraid of wandering around from his or her genitals to other areas of the body while kissing and licking them lightly. Just keep in mind that your reach may be very limited.
For example, a girl can kiss or suck on his balls a little bit, while a guy can focus not only on her clit but also on her inner and outer lips and perineum area.
#10. CHANGE YOUR PACE OFTEN
Remember that you are not dealing with a lollipop or Popsicle. It is obvious that if you do only one technique or move the whole 69 session, it won’t be a great experience for your partner.
Therefore, you should mix it all up a little bit by following these tips and tricks:
- Change the pace at which you give your head
- Alternate the pressure of your mouth
- Experiment with a suction that you are applying
- Mix various moves into your techniques
You should always try to mix things up so that you are creating a unique experience each and every time you go down on him or her.
Trust me that this way, the 69 position will be always that experience your partner is looking for.
#11. COMMUNICATE YOUR NEEDS
Sadly, there are many people out there that just don’t like giving oral. They may think it is unhygienic or they may have bad previous experience. However, they’re not too terribly shy about getting it as much as they can.
Therefore, if you want to have a great 69 you need to communicate your sexual needs.
Just have an open discussion with your partner and make sure that you are both on the same page sexually, or one of you is going to have an absolutely terrible time.
Trust me, if one of you has a terrible time, it means that it will be the last time you tried the 69 position. That is why you need to communicate your sexual fantasies and preferences with your partner.
#12. ALWAYS HAVE FUN DOING 69
There is nothing worse than when you are not enjoying yourself during sex. Focusing only on the tips and tricks above to the picture-perfect 69 is really going to prevent you from living in the moment.
Actually, most women complain that men are not expressing their enjoyment during sex. If you realize, guys often can have a robot face during sex. Luckily, this can be fixed easily.
Just have fun during sex and express that naturally.
You can moan, use soft dirty talk and pay attention to her whole body to show her you are having fun. After all, we are talking about sex here! If you’re not enjoying yourself, then what’s the point?
The 69 position can be a thrilling wild ride, or it can also become a nightmare if you do not follow basic rules. Then again, sex is like a pizza. Great pizza is awesome, but even bad one is still pretty damn good.
Keep these tips in mind the next time you are going down on her. I bet that if you follow these to the point she will experience the 69 of her lifetime.